we can't hang put that much but we talk a lot on the phone. but now, he has some celfone bill probs. we go to diff. school but we still manage to hang out before. but now he's moving in like a month. it's still in the same city but just far away. we dont wanna break up coz we really love ea. other. he's kinda like a care-free type of person. i just dont knw what to do with him. my family's kinda like against him, just a lil. i cant be free like him coz im still attached to my family. im 16 n i cant do anything yet. he's 17 but he still doesnt have a job. what do i do? i know it's kinda confusing coz im confused too. help please? anyone.
2007-03-03 05:22:47 · 15 answers · asked by crimson_eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, i sympathize for you. From the information you've given, sounds like a heart tearing situation. Okay, if i was you, i think i'd sit down and talk to him. If what you said, about loving each other, is true, he'll understand the problems and possibly feel the same way. So i would talk to him and tell him your feeling, thats part of a boyfriends job, they're supposed to be a shoulder of support and comfort and someone to come to when you need to talk. It sounds like your relationship with him means a lot to you so it would be ashame to see it go to waste. So just try to work it out and if you remember that you love him and he loves you, nothing should be able to come between you two.
Good luck and i hope everything works out for the best. *^.^*
2007-03-09 19:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to understand that a lot of what you are feeling has to do with your age and with time will change. That's hard to do and some of the things you are saying show that this is more you than him....being 16 is an intense time in your life....but things will get better and you would be wise to just accept he is moving and that doesn't mean your life is over.
Also...try to consider "why" your family doesn't like your boyfriend because they see things that you don't....and it may a better thing for you that he is moving, even if you can't see it that way right now.
Try to find other friends and interests as well as this one person...and just take time to wait awhile and see what happens...you have all your life ahead of you. If you were wise you would both decide to stay friends, but date other people for awhile.
If you really love each other, taking time to do this won't hurt anything....he will still want you in the end....but you will both have tested this out a little.
Take this advice from some who have been there...know just how you feel...but are giving you wise counsel...and listen to your family. They do know you ...and love you. Pay attention to what they see that you don't.
2007-03-09 16:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem unsure about the whole thing of him moving in with you and i don't sense any happiness about it.
You are very young, why don't you postpone the living together until later?
You don't need worries like his bills hanging over you as well.Discuss it with your family for advice, but it sounds to me like living together is something you're not ready for yet, even if you do love each other.
And dont panic. If you do love each other, it will all happen alter at a better time >>> when you are maybe a year older and he has a job and when he is being more responsible about his bills.
Remember the bill is his problem to sort out not yours!
Good luck!
2007-03-08 13:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be in love. Is it the real thing? I don't think so. If your parents aren't happy about him as a boyfriend for you, listen to them. They are older, wiser and have the wisdom you don't possess right now. Drop him & wait till you are older to get serious. 16 is a hard age. We've all gone through with the crushes and it feels so serious and heartbreaking. You need to cultivate many kinds of friends and be just that-friends-no attachments. How do I know-I was 16 at one time & went through all the heartbreaks. Girls especially have that need to have an attachment to a boyfriend. Think
about it. Don't ruin your life about 1 boy. It's not worth it. You are much better than that and deserve better.
2007-03-10 12:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by Garnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, every relationship requires TIME. If you and your boyfriend can't see eachother much, odds are that your relationship won't work out very well. You mentioned that he's moving, so there might be some trust issues depending on how much you will see him after he does move. If you both put alot of effort into making the relationship last, it will all work out :). Try and talk to this with your boyfriend, everything will be much easier afterwards. Hope i have helped! :)
2007-03-03 05:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by colorfulgarden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is ask him when he moves to get a job. So u and ur bf could talk for a longer period of time. Also u could meet him some where like the beach, movies, bowling, mall, restraint, any where! Oh ya and if ur family is against him ask them what they don't like about him. Also remember to follow ur heart. Imagine your self without him............Then imagine ur self with him, Then pick which one u liked the best! I Wish U The Best Of Luck!
2007-03-11 06:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by ashlynnplascencia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look please dont be affended when i say this but your still a baby yet. you got your whole life ahead of you. don't set your heart on just this one boy. he is still young yet himself. you neither own know about what love really is and how to make a relationship work. it is cool to have a "puppy" love thing goingon but to get really serious now isn't the smart thing to do. you need to worry about your education and your future before you worry about any boyfriend. or if this or that one loves you. becaus the only thing they are loving about you at this age is if your going to be puttin out anytime soon. trust me i am 30 yrs. old been there done that. I have 3 girls of my own. and now on the communication topic. if your not able to see much of each other for whatever reasons now. and the vibe just isn't there then honey cut your loses and end it now. you can still be friend if the two of you choose to but the bf/gf thing isn't going to work.
2007-03-03 05:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by brenda b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take his moving away as an opportunity to test the relationship. Put the burden on him to solve the distance problem. At least, wait until he's at least willing to HELP solve it. If he's too carefree to care, that's a sign you can not take lightly.
2007-03-11 05:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u say u love him a lot. i think u two can work things out i know it would be hard cuz u can't see each other that much. i would have to say work things out if it was meant to be the relationship will lasts.
laters
2007-03-07 12:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Wahaylia V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if hes moving away just find sum day to see him(like meet up somewhere)and if you 2 dont talk much then try to see him more often
TaNya
2007-03-03 05:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by ♥TaNyA!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋