Last yr, my best friend married. Small wedding, 2 bridesmaids & 2 groomsmen. I was Matron of Honor & our other best friend was Maid of Honor (Md of H). At rehearsal, I was assigned to stand next to the bride. In privacy, I asked the bride if she was OK w/ the placements of her friends. To make sure it was how she wanted it. She said yes. (My husband is the Groom's best man & stood next to the groom). The Md of H got jealous & the next day just hrs B4 the wedding the bride told me that the Md of H was upset that she was not standing next to her. The bride asked me to step down from my position. I was extremely upset, but carried on with all my duties w/ a smile. The Md of H never spoke to me again. I waited 2 mos. after the wedding to let the bride know I was upset. Almost 1 yr later, she is mad at me and says I dont care about her. I have tried to repair the friendship with no success. How do I let our other friends know we are no longer friends w/o causing more probs?
2007-03-03 05:19:04 · 6 answers · asked by Florida Gal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All of this sounds very, very childish. Someone shouldn't stop talking to you because of a placement at a wedding. Side note, I was in a wedding where there was a maid of honor and matron of honor. The same jealousy occured. It's just childishness really. Everyone wants their moment to shine, and the best thing next to being the bride (I guess) is being able to be the one that stands NEXT to the bride. If you are positive that the other girl isn't going to come to her senses, then you need to cut your losses and go on with your life. Tell your friends carefully, but just explain in all honesty that you simply aren't seeing eye-to-eye anymore and have decided to go your seperate ways. It doesn't mean you cannot be friends with other people that are still friends with her. Stay strong and be honest. Those are your best bits of advice to keep in mind. Again, I'm sorry you are stuck in the middle of all this.
2007-03-03 06:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really have the time & energy to go about being upset about stupid stuff like that? Don't skip my reply...STOP AND THINK. I mean it. Step outside of yourself and read this question. People getting upset about PLACEMENT at a wedding??? Please.
My guess is that you did NOT go on with your duties with a smile if the Maid of Honor didn't speak to you again. My guess is that was obvious.
Life is too short to get your panties in a knot over junk like this. You need to learn when to let it go. Make a stand when it's really important, and trust me, THIS was not one of those times.
2007-03-03 13:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone is stressing out about someone's wedding, and this could possibly ruin your friendship, it's not worth it. If you want your friends back, just say you're sorry and that you really miss them and want to be friends again. If you don't want to be friends again, then just move on and find some new friends! Good luck!
2007-03-03 13:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by ACTiNGisLiFE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her go!!! She sounds like an uncaring selfish *****! I wouldn't do anything, just ignore her and her comments and carry on with your life.
2007-03-03 13:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they speak spanish, you should tell them ANDA A CAGAR BOLUDO!!!
2007-03-03 13:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them what happened they will understand
2007-03-03 13:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by diane u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋