I have two daughters now through growing up these two fight like cats and dogs. Gave a very bad time. Very unruly young ladies. Oh by the way I was a single mom raising them. Any way the one who is getting married is having a shower and wants her sister to be there. The sister who is to be invited said some rude things about her and has nothing to do with her. But being mom and wanting her children to make mends and for everyone to get together and get along and lets be a family. But somehow things have gotten turned around and they my daughters have ganged up on me. I am confused over this so some harsh words have been said has put me in anger and told them how disrespectful they had always been to me and to each other. I turned to be ugly. Now we are not speaking to each other and I am not sure about giving this shower after making invites and making these calls. I am trying to understand what has happened. And now I want just act non existent have no part of them. Vanish
2007-03-03 05:15:37 · 10 answers · asked by Carol K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first and foremost the love for your children is susposed to be unconditional. which means that you love them no matter what. and yes you should still give the bridal show. you spent the money and made the calls. so be a good role model and give the shower. whether you know it or not sisters are going to fued it is a part of nature. I know first hand i have a big sister and we fight and argue. but we give each other our space and then we are friends again. but for you to just disown your children is not the right thing to do. you really need to pray to god and get his guidence through this sticky mess. and bye the way i can speak on the children part because i have 3 beautiful daughters of my own. who fight daily. but that doesn't make me love them any less. i would give my life up for aqny of my girls on any given day or any given moment.That is what being a mother is all about.
2007-03-03 05:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by brenda b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
I am so sorry about your daughters fighting withs each other,and that they are making you feel so uncomfortable at a time when everyone should be happy. you have worked so hard at raising the two of them that you should have a moment to remember. Take them aside and speak to the on how you feel and try to hove an adult to adult conversation with them. try to do this before the shower that you should most defiantly give the daughter that's getting married.Yes you should invite the one who is not as of yet because if you don't you will never hear the end of it S he will always remember the year that her mom who climes to love them both did not invite her tho her own sisters shower so inviting her to the shower is a must and if she doesn't come all the blame is in her lap not yours.Make sure she knows that she is invited don't let it be said that she never saw the invitation, hand deliver it ,same goes for the wedding invitations. this works for the both of the daughters this way she will not say that hit was up to the mom to get the two of them to gather before she got married .Make sure that she knows that you did what you were spouse to do.
2007-03-03 13:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, traditionally family close family members aren't supposed to be the hosts of showers for this very reason. If no one else wants to host it, like a close friend or an aunt or something, then I'd remind your daughters that a shower is a gift, not a right, and if you can't spend the day in peace celebrating your daughter's impending nuptials then you aren't going to spend your time or money organizing it. In the future, remember, mothers and sisters don't host bridal or baby showers, it's bad etiquette because some guests view it as the family vying for gifts.
2007-03-03 13:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the sneaky invite one with out teling the other while you really invited them both then try to mend what is left of the relationship. but dont leave them because them what kind of mom would you be. be honest in every thing you say to them but put it in the nicest way possible without sugarcoating anything or if thats to hard write them both letters . make your decision before the baby is born because being a grandma is the greatest part of being a mom
2007-03-03 13:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just have the shower(if you have already invited everyone) hopefully both sisters will come, do you think would they really not come if you went to all the trouble of putting it together? Maybe this will get everything back on the right foot.
2007-03-03 13:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom you are an Adult, we must find it in our hearts to forgive. This kind of behavior has gone on way too long and its time to Nip it in the Bud. When they want to argue or drag you into their squabbles, simply say I will have none of it and Don't. Have the Shower and be Cordial.
2007-03-03 13:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an average family. Just be the bigger person adn give it to her she will thank you some day
2007-03-03 13:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by happyman82385 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Instead buy and read the booklet:
How to resolve conflicts, by L. Ron Hubbard! Check it out!-
Ciao.....John-John.-
2007-03-03 13:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by John-John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just apologize to them tell them you love them both and go on with the shower .tell them that this silly arguing has to stop
2007-03-03 13:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes do the shower, she is still & always will be ur daughter
2007-03-03 13:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋