Should I seek medical help? What kind?
What do I do to lessen the pain and loneliness. I miss and love him. How do i live without him?
2007-03-03 05:02:56 · 9 answers · asked by desrtflower2002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He would not want you to sit around and be miserable. Get out and start doing things with your friends. He is in a better place now, just keep telling yourself that (it lessons the pain). I do believe in the afterlife. You may want to see a doctor who can put you on anti-depressants, they do help alot of people. I wish you the best.
2007-03-03 05:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely need some grief counseling. Perhaps a trusted licensed minister or a licensed grief conselor or therapist. At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, God can help you through this. Prayer, family, and friends can also help you.
The pain won't ever completely go away, but you will learn to live life again. I hope the best for you.
2007-03-07 02:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by bignate_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u will have to go thought the grief process, the pain does not just go away the pain is the same if u loose him to death or to another woman. it always does help to get therapy, and bring the lord into it. u have lost a loved one, expect to feel shock at first. grief is a process that allows us to move on with our life. u can't avoid it if it goes ungrieved the loss remains forever. we have to grieve and grow from each experience of a loss. so the best way is to express what u are feeling, the person who doesn't grieve completely, always pays the price later on. when someone we love dies the response will usually be to blame god. to get past this u will need time, human support, and to express all feelings. don't let anyone tell u, that u just need to forget about it. the goal here is to move through all of the stages of grief, express your anger, get help from other grievers. grief can't be resolved through isolation. your goal is to come out of this on a positive note. but the grief process is the way out.
2007-03-03 05:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I lost my son in October less then 2 weeks before his 20th birthday.
Some people I have come across try an tell me it will get easier (I havent seen that yet and its been almost 5 months)
I have been going to a therapist.You can try and talk about him to lessen the pain and lonliness You will feel it the rest of your life. Go to your docter for things like zanax (thats what I take on really bad days) There are also berevement groups depending on where you live though..I am in Florida so there are a few here. try and look them up on the internet for your city. Or in the obituary section of your local paper they sometimes annouce bereament groups.
God Bless~
2007-03-03 05:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by **Mishelly** 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grief is normal. You might want to look at getting a counselor.
When you are not talking to a counselor - go to church, hang out with your friends - try to occupy your mind with other things, but don't entirely forget about him. As long as you keep him in your heart, his memory lives on. And that is what is important.
I am sorry for your loss.
2007-03-03 05:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by ~Z~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek some couselling if you may. but one way to get over the loss, is to think of the good times and realize that he wouldnt be happy to see you miserable now. you have to move on. find new purpose of your life, like be involve in some project like charity, or learn new things like sewing or being creative like painting, some activity that you will enjoy and be proud of yourself for creating it. be in the company of others, and one day u are free from the pain...condolence..im sorry for your loss. but be happy now and move on, im sure your love one would want you to be very happy and successful! do not rush now, there is no escaping from grief, you have to go thru it to complete your healing, but if you get involve in some activities or go on travel to a different place, and be in the company of others, then healing becomes faster.
2007-03-03 05:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by mela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for your loss.
There are several support groups that you could possibly contact, with people in the same situatuion.
Do not be in any hurry to get through the grief, and do not allow anyone to tell you to "get over it." It's not theirs, it's yours.
Please take care.
2007-03-03 05:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by I'm daddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should seek medical help... or at least a counselor or someone to talk to.
i am sorry for your loss.
good luck.
♥
2007-03-03 05:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to support groups . im very sorry about your loss
2007-03-06 14:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋