and my partner's mother is already criticizing me. Last night she asked my partner if we had thought of any names, and he told he that we both had agreed that if it was girl, we'd name her Lyra. She wrinkled her nose and said, "Oh, I don't like that." She wants us to name our child something more "normal"...a common name such as Amy or Beth.
There's nothing WRONG with these names, but we chose the name Lyra because it's NOT common. It's the name of a constellation, and I think it's beautiful to name a girl after the stars!
Ultimately, it's our baby and our choice what we name her, but mom-in-law really hurt my feelings. I've got another 6 months to deal with her trying to get us to name our kid something "common" when that's the last thing I want to do (my name is Jessica and I know how it is in school to be 1 of 10 with the same name). Even if it's a boy, he's not going to be John or Matt like she wants.
How would you deal? What would you say next time she brought it up?
2007-03-03 05:02:29 · 9 answers · asked by grayhare 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you know this is your decision, which is good. unfortunately, you're also going to have to stand side by side with your partner and both tell her to her face that you appreciate her opinion, but you love the lyricism and beauty behind the unique names you'ved chosen, and you never want your child to be thought of as common or ordinary. my husband and I have chosen the names "sirius michael" for a boy (we chose to name him after the brightest star in the sky) and "jasmine rhiannon" for a girl....not exactly normal. both sets of parents have wrinkled their noses at this, but when they knew we were serious, they backed off and even celebrate the names with us. so you have to stick to your guns, of she'll continue to walk all over you BOTH. the main thing is that you both confront her next time, or it will look like you're being evil...
2007-03-03 05:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by Sirius's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went threw the same thing with my family when my husband and I told them we were nameing out son Tearnin Taz they rinkled their noses at us and tried to get us to change it threw the whole pregnancy. I just smiled and laughed and said it is my child and once he comes you will get use to the name so stop putting it down and get use to it. He is now 1 1/2 and they love his name and can't see him being named anything else (he is so sweet but he can show a side that says he is taz). I am now 19 weeks pregnant with our second child and we have already picked the name Toryn if it is a girl and Torin if it is a boy LOL and this time I have not gotten any problems from them. Do what you want it is your child and in the end you have to like what you named them. They will learn to love it no matter what they say now.
2007-03-03 13:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Toni T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Lyra is a beautiful name. Personally I am not telling my side of the family our name choices. My poor sister did and she eventually caved and changed the name. My mom didn't like her choice for the exact opposite reason - it was too old fashioned. Anyway, you and your partner are the ones who need to be happy with the name. Don't cave like my sister because there are times when she talks with me alone and wishes that she hadn't either. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-03 13:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by First Time Momma 7/26/07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lyra is a beautiful name. The next time she makes suggestions, you can either tell her you've decided on a name and that's it, or you can politely thank her for her suggestion and say nothing else. She's part of your partner's family, and while your children aren't really her business, she's always going to be around to try to "help" so you don't want to burn your bridges.
2007-03-03 13:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think Lyra is a beautiful name. Is it their baby your naming? No, all yours and you partners. We are having a girl this time. Even though we haven't settled on a name one on our list is Aliza. No one likes it, but that's not their problem. be proud of your choice. Good Luck
2007-03-03 13:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by aprildc82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise trying to keep harmony in the family but ultimately this is YOUR baby and Lyra is lovely!!!!!!! good luck!
2007-03-03 13:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her politely that it is your baby and she is not going to be raising your child so if you want to name your child something you cant spell or pronounce that is your business but try to be polite about it even though i know it will be hard because i am going through the same thing right now with my family and my husbands family she will just have to understand if you like then she will have to like it
2007-03-03 13:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by third times a charm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a pretty name!
2007-03-03 13:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by njyecats 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, its yours and your husbands baby, name her or him whatever you want.
2007-03-03 13:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by ButterFlyAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋