2007-03-03 05:02:10 · 8 answers · asked by LON 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh yes.
My advice to you is don't give up an existing relationship (yours or his/hers) in order to pursue this.
When you are already attached it's hard to tell how much of what you are feeling is genuine attraction to the person and how much is the difference between hanging out with someone as a friend and going out with them.
Looking at the relationship as a whole, friends are easier company than boy/girlfriends because you don't have to do things together if you don't want to (e.g. food shopping, putting up with them when they're in a bad mood, spending time with their other friends who you don't much like, visiting their parents), meaning that the time you do spend together is more fun. Don't make the mistake of thinking that difference is down to the person.
If you were in a relationship with your friend then everything would be different (for you both) as you'd be looking for different things out of it than you are now and you would see each other differently and act differently, and once that adjustment has happened the grass may not turn out to be greener after all.
Wait until you are both single even if this takes years, and then go out and get drunk together (note: not you getting them drunk - you're meant to be friends and friends don't act like that) and talk to them about it and see what happens.
If you go for it and realise you've made a mistake, never forget for one second that you are friends. Be honest with them, don't lay blame, don't let it drag on, and do everything you can to get back to being just friends for the future.
2007-03-03 20:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Snakey B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a male friend fall badly for me. He was my best friend and never saw him as anything else, my sister and mum would often say that he had feelings for me but i never saw or noticed it and soon put it to the back of my mind. Until my wedding day when he told my sister 'the only woman he wanted to marry had just got married?!' Unfortunately we drifted after that as he did not like my husband and my husband did not like him. I bump into him occasionally and he is still single. If you have fallen for a friend honey i suggest you tred carefully and use you instincts. If you speak up of your feelings be prepared for the worse. On the other hand if you don't speak up you could miss out on the relationship you want... Its a hard one. Good luck. xx
2007-03-07 05:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's easy to fall for someone if you know them as a friend, especially if you work with them and so spend a lot of time with them. Two solutions: if you're both free, go for it. If one/both of you is already with someone else, keep it in check, and keep them as friends. Easier in the long run.
2007-03-03 05:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married to my best friend. we've been married 6 years and have a beautiful 4 year old daughter, were in love and happy. no-one knows you better than your best friend!
2007-03-04 03:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by sparkytasa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o yeah, even if you both single prob not the best idea, if they arnt intrested you could lose ur friend, its a choice only u can make.
and she werent intrested in me, and i nearly lost one of my best friends
good luck
2007-03-03 06:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by b77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but ive had a friend fall for me
dont go there you may lose the friend
2007-03-03 05:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by just ask jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have, and i no longer have the friend! So be wise!
2007-03-03 05:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by sanity s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope
2007-03-03 05:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋