I have been with my husband for 12 years. When we get along we get along great but when he is having one of those days, which recently are every other day, it's bad. I feel like I'm in a relationship with a 15 year old. He is used to me doing everything. I cook, mow, plant and weed garden, do all his paperwork for his court hearings, I file them at the court house and get all his investigative info to present his cases (Pro Se), I do his books for his business, invoicing, clean the house, take care of our daughter and his 3 children from a previous relationship (He Does Notta) and I even do some of the painting. Recently, I hurt my back and it's bad. I need $3,500 to get fixed through rejuvination center. He won't give it. He treats me like crap now that I can't do everything he want's me to do since I'm hurt. I feel like if I can't make him a dollar, I'm no good to him. What do I do? Leave, file hearing for house and kid? He doesn't even feed the dogs in 12 years. HELP!!!
2007-03-03 05:00:18 · 7 answers · asked by Tell It Like It Is! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I must face the truth and that is I'm the only one working this marriage and thanks for your comments. I have tried for years but it's just gotten out of control the last few months. Time to put the garbage to the curb.
He comes and goes as he pleases, spends what he wants and has many friends with no responsibilities. He just likes to be the "BOSS"!
I stay home, do everything, get no allowance. I even have to ask for $20 to get panties and he demands to know what it's for. HMMM! I have no friends because he has ran them all off and pushed my family away.
I think it's time to hit the road Jack!!! Thanks again. I'll wait for a day or two to pick best answer. Thanks again.
2007-03-03 05:41:22 · update #1
By the way, I have spoken about these issues with him and he says; "I do what I want, When I want just not with whom I want", I did give you that! He says if I don't like it, I know where the door is. Truth is, I have no job because I've been busy taking care of house and his business stuff. I have no dollar to name and he has vehicle in his business account. I HAVE TRIED!!
2007-03-03 05:46:57 · update #2
I know what you're going through. I've been through the same. I would advise that you don't try and hide your feelings from either of them. Anger and feelings of betrayal are normal. They are in a pretty horrible place too now, but in order to make the right decisions for themselves and for you they need to know how you feel and what you're thinking. Emotions are running hot and they will probably say and do things which they will regret. Your mother wants to run away, which is normal. I'm guessing, since you don't want to leave, that you like your Dad and the place where you live. It's good you told her you don't want to move. If you want her to listen, honesty (blunt honesty) is always best. My parents seperated: my Dad got remarried and my mother has jumped from relationship to relationship. It's been a very bumpy ride but I can say that I've come out of it all right and a much stronger person. Your parents still love you. Things might seem chaotic and dark right now, but I promise that it will get better.
2016-03-16 03:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him exactly what you told us. Don't give up on your marriage though! You don't want to waste 12 years of marriage, 4 kids & all your hard work because of his bad attitude that you BOTH need to work on to make things better. You need to find a way to make him see what you are going through, with 12 years of marriage, he will come around. Have faith in yourself, pray to God for things to get better at the same time do something about it. DIVINE INTERVENTION. good luck!
2007-03-03 05:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out!!! If you do everything and he doesn't appreciate it (which it sounds like he doesn't), you CAN find someone who appreciates you. You don't deserve to be treated this way. If he cared about you he would get you whatever treatment it takes to get you well whether you do anything for him or not. Get out!!!
2007-03-03 05:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by rudee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for 1 he should be doing something your not his mother make him do his own work damn if he is gonna treat you like that maybe you should find some one to treat you right let him know that your not gonna put up with and you will leave
2007-03-03 05:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him that if he won't support you and treat you like he should (with you doing likewise), it can't work. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. If he's stubborn about it, talk to a counselor or religious leader (bishop, priest) with him.
2007-03-03 05:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by lucy nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him he doesn't know how to treat a lady your in a relationship your not in it to babysit him. Talk to him about it then leave his *** a man like him doesn't deserve you or a second chance LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE.
Jewel T
2007-03-03 05:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
advice is cheap,,how do you really feel inside?follow your gut,,my first was a bust after 12yrs,now 20 yrs into my second,,got a good one this time and it shows.you know how you feel,do what goes with the feeling
2007-03-03 05:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by baseump_01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋