Alright, I'm a little worried that an orgasm isn't all that it's cracked up to be. I resently started having sex, but I'm pretty sure that I've never had an orgasm. I'm almost positive that it's not his size because the first time he couldn't even get it it, but now he can completely get it in and I don't feel any pain. When we have sex though, I don't think I'm getting an orgasm or maybe I am and it's just not as good as I thought it was going to be. It feels kind of good, but nothing really special. I shake a lot too. Not out of nervousness or pain, my legs just shake a lot. I'm really curious if that's the orgasm, I hope not =] Please tell me everything you know, I'm a little worried.
2007-03-03 04:46:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I began having sex at an early age. I didn't have my first real orgasm until years later. Oh, sex always felt good and I felt somewhat satisfied aftward, but I always felt there was something missing.
Once I had matured and learned to relax and let it happen, it happened , and it was mind blowing. You will know when you have one, believe me.
When your having sex, don't concentrate on trying to have any orgasm, because it won't happen that way. Relax, have a good time, listen to your body, let if feel whats going on. Also, try different positions or locations or techniques. There are plenty of books on the market that teach you various things, if you can't think of anything different to do on your own.
So, stop worrying. There is nothing wrong with you and there is more to it all than what you have had.
Give it time and it will happen.
Good luck
2007-03-03 05:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way for a woman to learn about what an orgasm feels like is through masturbation. don't rely on a partner to "give you one", you have to be willing to do it for yourself.
once you know what you like and know what it feels like to have an orgasm you can bring that information into the bedroom with you and teach your partner what it is you want.
most women don't have orgasm during sex without some sort of stimulation of the clitoris, its true. this can be done by you, or your partner. additionally changing positions can help, as all women are built slightly differently and certain angles will allow your partner to hit your "g-spot" when others won't.
the key to having good sex, especially when you're just starting out and learning about your body, is to experiment in a safe environment with someone you trust.
as for the leg shaking, this is actually a common response. if its uncomfortable, try changing positions as sometimes it can be from staying in the same one for too long.
2007-03-03 05:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by sheeboobles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sometimes difficult for women to have a full-blown O from vaginal intercourse. If you're both comfortable about it, then ask him to perform oral before you two have vaginal intercourse. The focus on the clitoris that you get with oral is usually lost in vaginal intercourse. Another option is trying woman-on-top if you're not into the whole oral thing (but I don't know why you wouldn't be!). This allows your man a full view of you, allows you to control how "fast and furious" things get, and your man can reach around and stimulate your clitoris while he is also getting enjoyment. Sorry if that was too graphic and I'm sure I'll get some thumbs down for being honest, but whatever I think I'm being helpful.
2007-03-03 07:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very unfortunate and sad reality is that most women never achieve an "orgasm" during sex. Most women achieve pleasure during intercourse but from the intamacy and the physical feeling of it not because they get an O each time. I wouldn't worry too much about it because you can still enjoy it and the reality of getting the type of O they show on porn is not really a reality at all.
2007-03-03 04:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stimulate your clitoris somehow. You'll eventually have an orgasm believe me and when you do, YOU WILL KNOW. It's one of the best feelings in the world. What you described is not an orgasm. Just do like we said and stimulate your clitoris and it will come!
2007-03-03 05:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by livindead_zombie13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k when u have sex you dont sit there and say ok im gonna have an orgasm cuzit wont come if ur there enjoying it long enough and going at it try and think of things that turn u on and what u like not all women can orgasm but if u believe u can achieve
2007-03-03 04:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To me, it doesn't sound like you've had one; you may have almost had one, but when you have one you KNOW. There is a definite feeling of satisfaction afterward. Try different positions, and either you or he can stimulate your clitoris, where you are the most sensitive. It kinda feels like this itch that have you have and then you scratch it perfectly....you'd know it.
2007-03-03 04:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u have one of those massaging shower heads .... use it.. stimulate ur clit and u will have an O
2007-03-03 05:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Ludacristine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋