LAtely I have been having fantasies about being with another female? I would definitely consider myself?

Question

straight and I am in a committed relationship with a man. But I have been thinking a lot about wanting to have this sexual experience? There are very few types I could even see myself doign such things with? I feel bad about this/am ashamed but could this be normal??? How do I go about getting rid of the thoughts??

Answer 1

OK so here is what I am thinking. You see, I am a straight male and I was just wondering what my reaction would be if my wife suddenly was feeling about other females the way you are feeling right now. And the feeling that comes to mind is, "how wonderful!" (And I am not thinking those lustful thoughts which most men think about sex between two women. Even though it is one of the greatest turn-on for any straight male. Wanting to be with two women at once, you know..._)

Anyway, I would say that you ought to discuss this with your male friend and be totally honest with him. Who knows, perhaps he might be willing to help you discover this new truth, about you and with you. Together! Wow, what a wonderful way to strengthen your existing relationship!

I don't think that you ought to run off and start labeling yourself so fast. You need to discover who you are first and right now I would not do it by sneaking around, behind your lover's back. Involve him in this discovery and you will be amazed where this may take you. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, most of the people are bisexual and have some leanings of same sex interests. So your lesbian tendencies are not too abnormal. As long as they remain fantasies, not much harm is done. If you want to seriously want to get rid of such thoughts, try Bach Flower Essences and find out more about them at:

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Answer 3

First, you need to talk to your boyfriend. There might be something wrong in your relationship & you are substituting your feelings, with these urges. You may need to seek a marriage counselor.

You may just need more female companionship. Women sometimes lose themselves to their boyfriend's life.

If there is nothing going wrong in your relationship and you are still feeling this attraction. Ask yourself: Are you completely opposed to lesbian relations?

If not, my suggestion is to meet with someone your attracted to & you believe that she might be homo- or bi-sexual. Go out with her a few times. This is just to see if you can feel sexually arroused, just by her presence. I'm not saying act on it.

If you are arroused, you need to talk to her. Tell her about your feelings. Basically, ask for a one nighter.

You should tell your boyfriend before you act. But don't let him make into a 3-some. You need to work through this & find out if it's something you like. You may very well be bi.

If you are totally opposed to this type of thing, seek professional help, best bet is a psychologist. Your not sick, but something is triggering this need. She may be able to help you figure it out.

Answer 4

so your haveing thoughts about women??? thats normal, most women get the urge to be w/ women. thats ok. i sugest that you have a three-sum w/ your man let him experence this w/ you. be careful though, most relationships fail after a three-sum because of the distrust. if you want you have him watch you get w/ another girl thats always fun too. and aboutt he thooghts going away... they wont until you explore that area of intrest.

Answer 5

I think it is normal just be sure to know for sure if you are Lesbian or not before you go off getting married and then having kids and then like realizing you are gay.

Answer 6

I don't know. I fanasize about being with women too.

Answer 7

quit thinking about it