I'm asking on here because I really don't know what to do. Me and my ex split up a year ago and he owed me £2000 at that time. He has paid off half of it through his parents though they don't see him often (he avoids them generally) so and now I haven't had anything for months. He did lose his job (failed drug test *sigh*) but I think he is now working again. He doesn't have a fixed address just stays at his scutty girlfriend's dump. I don't want to go looking for him, have tried phoning his mobile but he just hung up on me as he always runs away from problems or confrontations. Shall I try to talk to him (don't really want to as don't want the abusive idiot thinking I care about him) or go though small claims court? Does anyone have ideas or experience of this? I wouldn't say I don't need the money as £1000 is a lot but part of me says I should just give up and carry on with my life. (I'm very happy with boyfriend of 8 months who is loving, loyal and caring, everything my ex wasn't.)
2007-03-03 04:34:46 · 13 answers · asked by Charlie B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Edited to add: I have some cheques he wrote me for some of the money though every time I have tried cashing them they have been sent back due to insufficent funds in the account. (He spends all his money of booze and drugs) I also have mutual friends who would vouch for it being true though I don't know if they would go to court for me. Thanks to those who have answered so far.
2007-03-03 05:08:59 · update #1
you dont have to face him personally over the money, i'd suggest trying the small claims court and see what they can do for you, if the git still wont pay, then write the money off and move on. i'm glad you've found someone better though.
2007-03-03 04:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by sian h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you do not live in the USA, I do not know if the same laws would apply. I had this same problem once with an ex. I was told by the powers that be that unless I had some proof, canceled check saying "loan" on it or some sort of note, I was out of luck.
Hound him and you may get your money back but I doubt it.
2007-03-03 12:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a life-long friend who owed me money, but wanted to pay me back on her terms not mine. I figured that I would never see the money again. So I bought a mini tap recorder and went to see her. I got her really mad and got her talking about exactly what she owed me and why she wasn't going to pay me back. I got it all loud and clear on tape!
It's illegal to record someone without them knowing it in some places, but if you have a phone call recored on voicemail or something some judges will listen to it.
I wound up just letting the debt go because I wanted to move on with my life. She eventually got what she deserved because what comes around goes around, but it sucks to lose a friend.
Now-a-days I never loan more money than I can do without if it were not repaid. If you really want to have a long-lasting relationship based on trust and respect, don't loan large amounts of money.
Good luck!
2007-03-03 13:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by SecretariesRule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste anymore time going after this loser. If you didn't have anything in writing showing this to be a loan you can't do much anyway. Write this money off as a payment for learning a lesson about recognizing a deadbeat and move on with this new man. It happens to us all once(or sometimes more) in life when we trust too much. It doesn't mean we were stupid, it just means we were too good for them. Good Luck.
2007-03-03 12:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for you, the key word here is 'ex'. Unless you have a written agreement, recognisable in a court of law, I'm afraid he owes you absolutely nothing. I'd advise you to give up and carry on with your own (much better) life.
2007-03-03 12:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He owes you money and yes he should pay it back. If you have been trying for a long time to get this money back, it's been more of a headache then anything. I'd forget the money and move on with your new man. Be happy and forget that jerk.
2007-03-03 12:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by samusmclife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes in life sounds like yours was a hard lesson - but at least you can learn from it
Get on with that special life you now have don't look back it will only discolour tomorrow.
2007-03-03 12:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it. you kissed him goodbye, so be happy you got half, and kiss the rest of the money goodbye. its just not worth the chase or the hassle. just be happy in your situation now, and let him continue on his miserable existence. and don't forget that karma is a *****, so he will get this all back in return.
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2007-03-03 12:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any proof of loaning him this money i.e. emails? you may be able to take him to small claims court.
He seems like a real piece of work good you split up with him.....
2007-03-03 12:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by purplejadedragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way: It only cost you 1000.00 to find out what kind of person he is. That is probably the best 1000.00 you ever spent. That part of you that says "get on with my life"? Listen to it!!
2007-03-03 12:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Campo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋