how can i make someone listen?

Question

me and my mom allways argue over stupid things and every time i try to speak she inturupt me i just want her to listen to me once in a while

help!

Answer 1

You and you Mom are having a communication problem. When you argue, both you and her want to get each of your own point across. This will not work, since both of you are (at a certain extent) pissed, or angry.

Listen to what she has to say first. When she has cooled off, try to tell her your point in the most diplomatic way possible. Don't try to be rash or sound defensive. Try to tell her too that her behavior bothers you, and that you would appreciate it if she only listened to what you have to say once in a while.

If you can spend more time with your Mom in happier situations maybe you can have a better relationship with her, and you will argue less. ;)

Answer 2

I have two answerer's ...I had foster kids for 11 years and this always worked for us. 1. Tell your mom you have an idea. Get something like a paper weight or even a spoon. Then sit (make sure you sit, it's less threatening and confrontational) say, "OK, here's the deal." "We both have something important to say. So, we will take turns with the spoon and the other person will listen and not talk until she has the spoon. " You may also suggest she have a piece of paper and pen to take notes if she doesn't think she'll remember what she has to say. But, she is not allowed to write or interrupt the whole time you are talking.

2. The other method is pretty easy too. It's called active listening. Now you can start or your mom can start . The way it goes is that you listen to what your mom has to say and repeat it back in a question. Like for example I hate your boyfriend. your response...You hate my boyfriend?...this gives her time to elaborate don't' comment just listen and respond...you'll be surprised on how much you aren't arguing about, and what the true argument is about.

Answer 3

First of all make sure that you are not interrupting her. You need to talk to her when you are not arguing about things. Tell her that you feel like she is not listening to what you have to say and that it seems as if she does not value your opinions. Ask her if she will listen and hear you out the next time that she disagrees with you. If you really talk to her, calmly of course, then maybe she will take it to heart. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Ask her to sit down. Get a glass of water and when she drinks u talk. Start with something intresting. Like, "I am pregnant (in case u r a girl)", or "I stole a car" if u r a guy or whatever u can think of. Then tell her no I am joking here's what I gotta say.
If everything else fails, try to open an email account for her and send her an email in case if she doesn't have one.
Last resort! Get a Megaphone!

Answer 5

If you want her to listen, whisper. Once you have her attention continue speaking quietly. Say these words, "With all due respect mother, will you please allow me to speak with out comment or interruption." The key to not fighting is not fighting.
Don't be combative be patient. She should start listening. If I had the chance to talk to her I would straighten her out. "Wake up Lady, you have a kid willing to talk. That is a treasure to hold."

Answer 6

I'd say wait until the argument is over & things are calm. Tell her you have some issues to discuss & you need to be heard without interuption. Try not to be accusatory in your speech. After saying your piece listen to her without interupting.

Answer 7

speak very quickly

change ur voice-tone time to time

make it more interesting by using ur hands some animation sound effects u knw

if non of them works

say :MOM LISTEN TO ME!

Answer 8

You have to set time aside when she's not angry or distracted. Ask why the arguments are over what you think are small things.

Answer 9

Speak loud and act more mature.

Answer 10

a few options: first you could say nothing until you have her attention... second you could ask her to stop talking until she had heard you out.... third write to her about what you want from her...