hey have u ever been left out in a group?

Question

hey i have a group of so called best frens.. we mix together a lot.. we are in a band.. but i alwiz get left out.. well tats wat i alwiz feel.. my band is ******* cruel sometimes.. i often have to make it up to them when they r wrong.. i dunno why.. we are four ppl.. so i am the onli one alwiz isnt sticking with them.. wherever they go is either i follow or i am left out.. why mus i alwiz follow them? cant they wait for me? sometimes i get desperate when they are all talking to each other and iam sulking at the side.. so i jus simply said anything to get along with them.. but i alwiz suck at it.. they will look at me one kind then they continue chatting.. sometimes when i ask them anything they wont answer me.. i dun understand why.. they try to act cool.. often if they need me they talk to me.. wow i am hating them as i write this.. anyway how do i solve this? how do i tag along? i tried being like myself but often i cant be myself when i am with them.

when any of them three did some mistakes.. often they never said sorry to me.. but if i do any mistake then i am dead without sorry.. why? like that time when i am not free and cant follow them to the band practice.. they ******* scold me and said u r out of the band.. when one member need me when he is alone in a party.. he called up ask me to go to the party and said when u din attend the band practice u better say sorry to them.. see wat i mean? they **** me when they dun need me but being kind to me when they need me.. HOW !!!???? iam hating them and i often spend time with them.. coz i am alwiz being the follower.. am i an idiot??

Answer 1

I am sorry to hear this story. The truth is that is normal behavior for humans in general to try and fit into groups...being accepted is a big deal for all.Fit into your family, your school, your job, society.Few are the ones that dare to be different and don't give a damn about what others think.That also takes a lot of effort.
You are not an idiot but you are letting them play with you because you are desperate.There are other people that will share your passion for music. If you need a new band...make a new one. This so called "friends" of yours are using you for the band or for anything else they are doing but they are not considering your feelings....therefore they are not your friends.
Stop trying so hard with people that do not respect you.Doesn't matter how old you are or young. People should respect you. And if you don't demand that from them, no one will.
Stand up for yourself and stop being their mascot in the band, and socially.Make your own rules.Be your own leader in life.Respect yourself and others will respect you. Don't let people walk on you.That is not fair for you.Also don't spend your time or waist it with this band. They are ignoring you all the time and you are trying so hard to be seen and heard!.Put all that effort in trying to find the right people.You are not an idiot. Sounds like they are for treating you, such a nice person and sensitive, with so much disrespect.

Answer 2

you're not an idiot and maybe they are just seeing how much they can get away with and your letting them. They might also not realize how it makes you feel. You should tell them how you feel and how you don't think that you should be treated that way and if they're really your friends they'll listen to you and respect you and probly stop or not do it as much but if they're not really your friends then it doesn't matter cause you don't need people like that. If they get mad or whatever and don't hang out with you anymore then you should find a new group to hang out with.

Answer 3

Okay my friend had a similar situation. And what I told her to do was hang out with all of our friends individually and then do it again and add a few more people of your friends to join. Once you are comfortable hanging with all of them together shouldn't be a problem.

Good luck!