What do you think of me?

Question

I was married for 12 years and I have two small boys 7&9. About 3 years ago I developed a gambling addiction and spent nearly 40k on our credit cards. My husband had no idea because I paid the bills. When he did find out he almost divorced me but he helped me and we had to file for bankruptcy. Then about 4 months ago I started an affair with the football and wrestling coach where I work. I work in the cafeteria at my kids school. When my husband found out he told me that he would have done anything in the world to keep me in his life. But the pull towards my lover was to strong and he divorced me. Now I'm having money problems because my husband got a good attorney and gets the boys 50 percent of the time. I recieve no alimoney and no child support. And to top it off I'm starting to write bad checks because I need gas to get to my boyfriends house. What do you think of me am I a good person?

Answer 1

Gosh no! You are a poor lost soul and if you are getting any alimony or child support it is way too much. You made your bed, but want someone elce to pay for the trip, in what universe does that make you a good person? Have you 'boyfriend' pay for your gas if you cannot get a job and pay for it yourself. You may as well get paid for your bed work.

After giving this some thought, you are the husband asking this, aren’t you?

Answer 2

Good person or bad person, your life is a mess. This is making it impossible for you to enjoy things, like the comfort of loved ones or a stable job.

You personally need to take control, decide your priorities and resolve the issues you have that distract you from accomplishing your goals.

You need help. A counselor can help you work through the issues that led to your gambling addiction and also help you work through your relationship issues.

As a last bit of advice. You need to spend some of YOUR time taking care of YOU. Why are you bouncing checks so you can hang out with your BF? Why isn't he helping with the bills? You need to do what is good for you, so that you can then do things which are good for those you care about. Bouncing checks is bad for you and will only make it harder to do anything with anybody.

Answer 3

You're not a bad person just confused I think- if your boyfriend is offering you no support or shows no indication of a descent future then leave him pick urself up. You need to live and destroying your credit by writ ting bad checks will only make it more difficult for you.
I'm divorced just got bored in the Marriage, my husband was verbally and physically abusive and was extremely insecure, plus cheated on my with my best friend-so I left! Life you I got nothing, no property, no alimony and what he gives for child support I we can't live on. Thank God i have a good job that allows me to live comfortably.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Just the way you've described your situation it makes me question weather or not you are joking.
I can't believe you would do these things and need us to tell you how bad they are. The bottom line is ( if this is a sincere question) that you are responsible for the choices you make !
You've already hurt your husband and even worse ... your kids. I think you are inconsiderate , selfish ,irresponsible and incapable of setting any kind of good example for them. Your X husband should have full custody and you can collect pop bottles to pay for your gas to get to your b/f place. You have some serious issues and need to grow up and take responsibility for yourself and your actions.

Answer 5

Your not a bad person. You just make bad decisions in your life. If your not real careful the day will come when all your bad decisions will eventually catch up with you. You can end up in prison for writing bad checks. My friend's husband wrote bad checks when they were first married and he went to prison. They did finally get divorced. You can become a better person if you would stop making bad decisons.

Answer 6

Sounds as though you went from the frying pan right into the grease. You need to see a therapist now!!! You'll wind up in more trouble than you'll know what to do with, if you don't stop writing bad checks. How does going to jail or prison sound to you right about now? Why can't your b/f come to see you or give you gas money, so you can go see him? You need help getting your head on straight & you can't do it alone.

Answer 7

Well, you are either a silly kid trying to get a reaction, or you are the stupidest adult woman in history. But, on the off chance that you are actually serious about your question, I'll give you my answer. If you were truthful, it's great that you are managing to not only screw up your marriage, and your children's lives; but that soon you'll be in jail for fraud. Enjoy your time behind bars. It'll be just as things should turn out, when an adult behaves as you are behaving.

Answer 8

I think that you do have a problem- or did. If you are writing bad checks because you need gas for your bf's house-stop going there. Is he at all concerned about your financial problems and is he thinking of helping you and ever supporting you. Here's my advice; Start going to a Christian church and I would ask to talk to the preacher because he would have more advice for you i can do. Take your boys to church with you and spend time with them.

Answer 9

I wouldn't say you're a bad person, but since you're questioning your actions it's obvious that you know you need help in your life. You should maybe try talking to a therapist and finding a legitimite way to improve your money situation. Correct the (what you feel are) mistakes that you've made and move on trying as hard as you can not to create more predicaments. Good luck!

Answer 10

you got everything you asked for.... and since you "love cheating on your husband" that OH, by the way, doesn't exist anymore..... i would say that a whole lot more bad stuff is going to come to your crazy ***.
do yourself a favor and get some professional help. you need it.
and stop posting the same questions over and over. you suck as a person, mother, wife, and lover.