Does jealousy (looks-wise) break up friendships?

Question

I've been having a problem with a cluster of friends, that I used to hang out with ALL the time...well not so much anymore. And they are all in different groups of friends. I am always like the 3rd wheel to groups because I don't have any REAL like close group of friends like people have from highschool. All my friends from highschool moved away, and when I was in college, all of those friends were from out of town because I went to a college out of town. Anyway, it seems as though I get alot of jealousy towards me from certain friends. And once I got my insurance job, it seemed like they stopped talking to me for some reason. But I was having problems with them before that even. Like a friend of mine seemed to get jealous that guys would come up to me and not her, and that sparked a jealousy that has just gone down hill from there. I didn't think I was stunning like a supermodel, but that's what they say or reference to, so I don't get it. Like it almost makes me feel insecure.

I didn't think that someone would get jealous of a friend that's better looking than you, I've always wanted to be around good looking people, but I'm not that way and I'm friends with everyone. I have had more guy relationships or it's easier for me to get guys than some of my friends, but why do they have to take it out on me? I am the nicest, sweetest girl, never a snob, just a fun outgoing person and it seems as though they don't appreciate me for who I am, and it's really getting on my nerves. Why does jealousy have to rule among friendships? Now it's like I need to get new friends or something, but where? lol

and it almost makes me feel depressed.

Answer 1

Lets get real--- everyone enjoys good looking friends, it raises the appearance factor of a group and selectivity. Even the worst looking person in the group feels better than if they were the best looking of all the ugly people. Why this superficial--it's true (yes, for more women then men). So, if you think your having a problem with your looks--it's not, most likely they don't like your personality or your arrogance.People from work are not friends, they are there to get paid and make a living first of all. People whom you share a common bond with threw association with common likes and challenges are. If you don't have any true friends---is because you forgot how to make them when you were a child. If you think all friends of yours is Jealous--- then it's time to figure out what you consider a friend to be--or get a hold of your ego.
"when I was a child--i spoke as a child, i played as a child........................... when I became a adult I put aways foolish thing". Time to "LIKE" grow up. "LIKE" find real "LIKE" Friends, "LIKE" talk and "LIKE" communicate "LIKE" an adult.

Answer 2

When it comes to looks, friends can get jealous and it could ruin a lot of relationships. Keep in mind that jealousy is part of human nature. You have something that nobody else has and they'll do whatever they can to take that away from you. You have this wonderful personality, a good job, and as a bonus, you are a very pretty person physically. No matter where you go and no matter what you do, people will get jealous of you regardless. You should do whatever you can to not let that bother you. Don't let jealousy make you insecure; encourage that situation and let it give you power. You will find friends that will appreciate you for the kind of person that you are on the inside, NOT the outside. In the meantime, continue to mingle and meet new people but stay focused on what's really important in life. I hope my advice helps. Good luck.

Answer 3

Jealousy is a fact of life. You need to move in circles where what you know is more important than how you look. If you're in college make friend with people who are in clubs with the same interest as you. Then focus on whatever the interest is, not on how you or anyone else looks. If you're too focused on your looks, people will be able to see that and that will make them less interested in you too.

And don't let the jealous people bring you down. They just need to grow up.

Answer 4

just be thankful that you're on the "good side" of things. seriously though, it can be a problem, but it's a very shallow problem reflective of either a flimsy friendship or an unbelievably insecure soul.

perhaps it's not even based on looks or physical appearances and the reaction of the opposite sex - try talking to them directly. that always works for me.

and lastly, don't even think for one moment that your life there in your small "town" is LIFE period. it's not. the world is bigger than that. if you can't handle the way that they can't handle you, then just pick up what you can and leave.

chances are you'll end up meeting people who are more interesting and more compatible with you as a person and as a friend than someone who you would like to call "friends" only because of a common childhood.

don't let just that get in the way of your own personal development. there's more to life than that - there's more to this world than just your friends (or friendship for that matter - but i'm not heartless).

cheers.

Answer 5

Jealousy does breakup friendship.
It does in any matters of life. So be wise, if you don't like it, tell your friends.
Honesty is needed in revealing the jealousy into a matter of trust, belief and relieving. For so, it is also the strength in any relationship youu might encounter as a human.
If you are insecure, tell them you feel like it. Just tell because it's worthy telling. Friends of real friendship exist to understand.

Answer 6

Everybody gets jealous from time to time. It stems from insecurity that people feel about themselves. Your friends are just insecure and want what you have. If their jealousy is making you this unhappy, you might want to consider a new group of friends. Many blessings.

Answer 7

Jealousy is such a nature that prevail in every friendship. It ought to happen in various magnitude, seen or hidden, but it is there. Breaking up of friendship is a mutual matter, nobody can clap with one hand. You have to blame yourself also if it breaks.
We have to be careful always not to belittle any friend because friendship has no bar in age,cast, creed, wealth, well-being and so on.
I have learnt from my life that whenever any of my friend has driven away from me, it is me who is also at fault.

Now I have a big no. of friends, well wishers, advisers, supporters, facilitators and so on. I am a blessed person of God.
Have good very good faith in God, things will surely improve. Learn to submit.
Make me your friend as I love to be.
Good luck.

Answer 8

You're just hanging out with immature and insecure people. I think sometimes the envy comes from a desire to be better. So maybe your "friends" see all of those great qualities you have and they feel lacking. Instead of working to better themselves (which is really hard to do) they chose to project their negativity and insecurity on to you.

Just walk away from these friends and develop others. Try yahoo groups for a social group in your area. I met my best friends (all 5) from a local yahoo group and they're great!

Good luck!!!

Answer 9

I have the same problem. My solution is that I only hang out with guys. They're so much more easy going. A real friend wouldn't be jealous of you. Use that as your guide

Answer 10

Jealousy ruins a friendship faster than anything. So you need to find people who are in your category or have similar interests so you have things to share with them. If you are too good looking for some people to deal with, maybe join a gym where they are interested in good looks.