i'm 16, my sis 19(in uni) but she acts so childish and rude! i'm beginning to think that she has some mental problem or maybe she was like this ever since she was young, i cant remember much. Anyways, everytime i try to advice and comfort her she keeps saying "Dont give me a lecture!" how the hell am i suppose to be there for her when she doesn't appreciate? she bothers a lot and is getting really anoying, living with her... i want her to understand that she has to change and if she doesnt wanna get therapy then the second best thing is her family, but she doesnt understand... i dont give her a lecture, i just say what i think is the best! if not me, then who else.. there is noone that she talks to. Anyone got any tips on what i should do/say? i mean i love her and so do we all but we just dont understand why she has such a bad attitude and she closes up, that's makes it even harder to understand. I want her to realize that i say things because i love and i care, i said that a lot!
2007-03-03 04:18:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have a sister too, and both of us hate being 'lectured'. Sometimes we think too differently on certain things, so it feels like she's trying to force her beliefs on me, and i don't like it. Tell her that you're just giving her your opinion because you care. Try not to sound too 'motherly' or condescending. And try to see things from her point of view too, who knows? maybe she could be right sometimes, even if you don't think so. Show her that you respect her and the decisions she makes. I know i hate it when my sister does this. Tell her that you want a good relationship with her, she is your sister after all! A sister is a friend forever.
I don't know how bad this really is, but she is at an age in which some rebel and just won't listen to anybody. It's usually just a phase. Try not to fight with her, though i know it must be hard if she's always in a bad mood. Maybe try to have fun with her and enojoy each other's company for a while, so you get closer and eventually she opens up and lets you be her friend, and take advise from you, or at least listen to it.
2007-03-03 04:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate. This sounds just like my 16 yr old sister. She shuts me & my family out and only wants to listen to her friends. Like right now me & my mom are trying to give her some advice on her so called b/f but all she wants to do is be rude to mom & not listen to anything she says. Me & her use to be close but she doesn't come to me anymore about anything. I try to take her out to eat & buy her stuff since my mom can't afford it but she acts like she doesn't appreciate what I do. She gets mad at everyone when she has problems & takes it out on everyone, especially my mom & grandma when all they try to do is help. I don't even like being around her, especially when she is rude to my mom. I just don't understand her. I'm hoping she'll grow out of this & hopefully soon!! I can't take it anymore, it's driving me nuts!
Good luck with your sister & wish me luck with mine!!
2007-03-03 12:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you are 16, you don't know everything, and you can't make her change. She has to want to change. You also need to realize that unless she specifically asks you for your opinion, then you need to keep your mouth shut. No one wants to hear unsolicited advice. So until your sister asks you what you think, shut up and leave her alone.
2007-03-03 12:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and have a sis to sis talk, shel'll listen even if its not the way you want her to good luck
2007-03-03 12:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by becca40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bla ,Bla, Bla all sisters, fight some times its the circel of life. HA HA HA HA
2007-03-03 12:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by kcs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋