Im 17 weeks pregnant and me and my husband just havent had any sex for a couple weeks..the reason being is he gets it when he wants it but when i want it we dont have it so i have been telling him no now that he is asking me.
The thing is our sex is outdated,he pleases me and the sex is good when we have it but we dont have it enough maybe like 2 every 2 weeks *i would like it at least every other day* we dont kiss,no forplay,just sex and then thats it...i like the music,kissing,neck kissing,all that good stuff. how do i get my husband to be more attentive to my needs and be sexier in the bedroom? thanks
2007-03-03 04:15:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have talked to him...when i came back from christmas break at my parents he was all into into for the first week and everything was great..now its back to normal. i tell him all the time but he just doesnt get it.
2007-03-03 04:22:52 · update #1
I think Happy & Humble gave you great responses.
I admit that my wife & I get in ruts sometimes. I also admit to being guilty of the same thing your husband is doing (or not doing rather).
My wife also has no reservations about letting me know when the play area is slipping. I try to remember it and make up for it the next chance I get. I'm big into having candles, music, and giving her a full rub down with some lotion/cream. I can't say I have the energy to do it every time.
I would tell him (again). Yes, I know you told him, but with us guys, we need constant reminders. When you tell him, don't be confrontational...be loving. Whatever you do, DON'T withhold sex. Don't turn your lovemaking into some kind of "reward" system. You cheapen it by doing that.
2007-03-03 04:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the"saying no to him" will bring exactly the opposite results, you need him to be more positive towards you and exercising this means you need to be positive to him too. Try starting the romance yourself and not be so obvious about it meaning don't go for sexualities try to be tender loving with your touches and tone of voic, try kissing him during the day once in the neck and go back to what you were doing and then kiss him again later just a few times a day of kissing and touching, saying "I love you" to motivate his senses towards you . I think that sex is the end result of the day if you have good understanding and warm relationship during the day he will eventually want you otherwise he is going to ask for it only when he needs it desperately. It is your job and duty to show him differently study your day and how you treat him and how you talk to him I am sure you will find the key. Best of luck to you. p.s changing such a situation needs time, persistence, patience and lots lots of love.
2007-03-03 12:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by Happy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Getting men to give more foreplay can be a challenge. Not because they do not want to but because they lack experience with women that showed them how. In my younger years one of my most enjoyable learning experiences was with a woman that would take charge by sitting in my lap and exposing to me what ever part of her that she wanted me to pay attention too. It was a lot of fun and it would take up all the time she wanted to play. This sounds simple and it is. Just take charge, not be domineering, and make a game out of it. I can promise you he will love it and so will you.
2007-03-03 12:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put somethine nice on at night in the bedroom and than your husband will pay more attention to your needs.
2007-03-03 12:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tis a hard question.
Hard to change a man like that.
Maybe you could try seducing him? See if you can talk to him & tell him your needs, explain what you want & need.
Tell him, you try to please him, ask if he can do this for you as well.
Then kiss him on the cheeks & tell him you love him. Don't be afraid to explain in detail why you need it.
2007-03-03 12:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'll have to answer your question, by asking you a question. Have you told your husband how you feel about your Love Making, and what you would like to happen??
2007-03-03 12:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife's 9months pregnant, i kinda know what you're dealing with? it's our first child and it felt strange to me at first, you now sex, touching, feeling.... it took her taking charge and doing something. she took charge in bed and startd the foreplay and the clothes coming off. It worked, before i knew it, i was trying to return the favor
2007-03-03 12:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by DERRICK R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about it. That's how you get him to do what you want, you have to tell him what you want. He can't read your mind.
2007-03-03 12:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start putting the moves on him
2007-03-03 12:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by hawaiian_lover1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋