Why don't white women like it when I (a white woman) dates black men?

Question

I've seen glances and heard talk that would indicate black women don't like the fact that I date black men. I just find them more attractive, to my way of thinking. But why is it that that bothers the women? I mean, I wouldn't care if they preferred white men.

Answer 1

I'm assuming you're saying why don't black women like it.

That's easy. From what I can see, they're afraid that their selection of black men who aren't thugs and stupid morons are more likely to date a white woman than a black woman. Now they have no way of proving that's true and I hate it when they say "White women are taking our men!"

I wonder...since when did black women own every single black man on the planet? I've never owned a black man.

I notice that it's the other way around as well, except it's with black men. They tend to dislike it when a black woman dates a white man. I've experienced this first-hand. And quite frankly, I don't care. I love him. Screw what the other say.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Most black women I know did not care that I dated a black man. At least half of the black women that I know are very open to dating white men. I think nowadays it is mattering less and less as to who is dating who.

However, there are always a few white men and a few black women that might not like the idea of mixing. I never actually met a black woman that did not like to see a black man with a white woman but I know there are a few out there. I did meet white men that did not like the idea of me dating black. At the end of the day, who cares, just do what makes you happy.

Answer 3

It actually goes both ways, because guys I've known my entire life, hate me, literally hate me, because my bf is not black. But you're right, I've never had a white women give me a dirty look; never.

So to answer your question, I'd guess it's much more painful for black women because so many of them are single these days. I was reading a recent article, and it said there's 10 black women for every 1 black male and even less when you consider the men who are in jail, unemployed or gay.

So I guess when they see a non-black woman with a black man, in their mind, they see it as one less black man for them.

Answer 4

Some people are just ignorant period. I'm black and I've learned that every race dislikes it when you date outside it. I dated Hispanics and whites and ppl said rude things all the time.

They are mad because they cant get a man like yours. There is nothing you can do to stop them from disliking you except be happy with your relationship to show that you can take care of your man better than the haters can.
God didnt give any commandments concerning race. But He did say "thou shall not covet." So, they are wrong, not you. Besides, NO ONE but God can judge you. Keep you head up.

Answer 5

I think you meant in your question, "why don't BLACK women...etc."? This is quite common. I think it's partly because Blacks have had so much taken from them by whites over the centuries, that they also resent (this includes men, IMO), a white, of either sex, "taking" the attention, love, and so on, of another black person, even if it's temporary. Or, for some people, it's just (pretty much) the same kind of racism as whites' conditioned, irrational, resenting and discriminating against other whites who date blacks.

It's not a logical thing, but more visceral, unless you're one of those whackos who believes in the "purity" of the races (no matter what race you are).

Answer 6

This goes both ways. Many white women don't like it when white men date black women. If you think about it, you can really answer your own question....

The quick answer is that they feel you are taking one more man away that could be with them...

Answer 7

This is the world sweetie, its not a place of agreement, but of difference and strife. If you want to be with him, there are things you must endure, I dated outside my race since I can remember, and even then I was very reluctant to be seen in public. Now I am at a point where I dont shut out my race, and im not exclusive in dating any race. I used to get those glances, and they are penetrating unless you are thick skinned and have a way of coping with the obvious intrusions.

Answer 8

I am a black women, it does not bother me, to each is own, people are going to look and have their say. my son is 14 and his girlfriend is Mexican, I would never in my life tell him who he should love or who he should be with, we make our own choices in life, I think everybody should mind there own business

Answer 9

Why need anyone's approval of your own dating preference? People talk all the time regardless of whom you date.

Answer 10

I have a cousin and a niece that was going through the same thing that you are. They ignored it, everybody got over it and now they are happily married, and all now except it. Just do what your heart tells you. THE HEART KNOWS WHAT THE HEART WANTS!!!