I decided to go back to school years ago and I have a dear friend who feels left out of my life. I can't meet her demands of the friendship because my life has changed. She trying to hold on to the old me. My friend has been there thick and thin but I change mentally and l am loosing some weight and trying to grow more spiritually. If I ask her for more space she will be offended becasue another person in her life also ask her to do that and she was offended. I love her and she needs alot attention I can't give her. The worst part is we work together and she is making waves at work. I not a witch I am really busy these days. I have 7 grandchildren and I go to school almost full time and work about 30 hrs a week. She has told me in the past she gets upset when I talk to others. I want her to make other friends and I don't want to hurt anyone . Please some insight.
2007-03-03 04:06:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You've been friends a long time and seen each other through a lot sounds like. Why would you want to keep someone out of your life who clearly cares about you. Good loving caring friends like that are hard to come by, most people are usually in it for themselves, it sounds as if you've found a friend who is just truly being a friend. You sound selfish to me, seems to me she's the one being a friend and you're not. If you truly care about her you would make the time to talk to her once in awhile, I'm sure she senses that you've distanced yourself but it sounds like she still cares about you even though she's probably aware you no longer care about her. It's more then likely tearing her up inside and she's dealing with some depression over knowing deep inside she's lost someone whom she looked as a close friend. This person sounds as if she would be happy just knowing you're still her friend, that is if you are. From my experience if someone (and this person sounds like she is) is a true friend all she's wanting in return is just a friendship, knowing that you still care, and someone she could turn too. Everyone's life is busy in their own way, my close friends and I talk almost everyday or at least 1 a week, and we generally will go out at least 1 a month if not more. You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends and they are your chosen family don't let them go, if you love and care about someone you make time for them even if it's a short time but you talk to them or even just something as simple as shooting them an e-mail once in awhile to let them know you're thinking of them and you do care. Let her know you do still care and you are her friend and I'll just bet you anything she'll ease up.If she's causing trouble at work I'd say it's her hurt and insecurity lashing out, and I bet she truly regrets it. If you want her to meet others try taking her out to eat and introduce her to some of your friends that you think she might connect with.
If you've both been through some rough times as you said you're not the only one who's grown she would have also, perhaps you've been so self absorbed you didn't notice she had grown too.
2007-03-03 04:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by KitKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds really needy. What you should do is sit her down and explain what's happening in your life and that you have no time for any fun at the moment. Tell her you still want to be friends with her and that you will miss her during the time you are busy but can't wait to see her again when your not. Have once a month girls night out and go see a movie or something. that should make up for the time you've missed. Hope that helps. If she gets offended then she's not really being a good friend, good friends have to understand.
2007-03-03 12:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your friend if she ever had a pet she loved when a lil girl that she held too close and
almost smothered. If she says "Yes," Tell
her: "Baby, that is what you are still doing!"
Love for another cannot be kept confined.
2007-03-03 12:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by LuckyLilTroll2U 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell this friend of yours that she is smothering you and you do not like it. Tell her that you should want to be friends with her and will schedule one day a week to spend time with her.
2007-03-03 12:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are kidding right? this person is smothering you and you don't have the nerve to push her off? well just wait around til she completely suffocates you, then you won't have to waste your breath
2007-03-03 12:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by lindazgardner 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think shes in love with you u might have to cut her loose
2007-03-03 12:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by Queen T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋