i think im pregnant?

Question

im 13 and i had sex and ive not had a period since im really worried that im pregnant do you think i should have an abortion? and if so where do i go? who do i tell? i am NOT telling my mum thats fo sure

ps obviously my mum will murder me

pps shell kill me even more because this was a secret bf

Answer 1

im 14 and i understand u even if u r not pregnant. look u r 13 so i understand that u cant tell your parents. so wat i would do is get a pregnancy test. lets hope that u r not pregnant but i min u really should have used a condom after all uve had sex education. but sometimes it may be that ur period still hasnt got a pattern cos u r young that often happens to me and ive had my period since i was 10!! and i u r pregnant go to the doctor without your parents and ask wat u might do .!! talk to another adult if necessary such as a teacher that is frendly with u!!

Answer 2

First find out if you are pregnant before you start thinking about options (abortion or no). Go to a Planned Parenthood (go to http://www.teenwire.com/clinics/ to find one near you) or a state or county health clinic. Take a friend or trusted adult with you. There, you can get a pregnancy test. But it has to be two weeks since you had sex. You do not say how long ago you had sex and at age 13, it is very rare for a girl to have a regular schedule.

But even if it hasn't been two weeks, go to a Planned Parenthood or health clinic to start the process of talking to someone about your health.

Please do not take anyone's advice on a list about whether you should get an abortion or not. You need to discuss that matter with people who KNOW YOU and who you trust. You are going to need a lot of support no matter what your decision is, and you can't get it from any of us on a list.

Someone else questioned as to whether your mother would really murder you or not. I am not going to tell you what is or is not true, but ask yourself if you deep down believe she will kill you. That is a very strong reaction and a serious one. If you think your mom will be super mad at you and the situation, you are probably right. But having a mad person who loves you by your side is better than being alone. This is probably one of the toughest things you have had to face so far. Don't do it by yourself.

Hang in there!

Answer 3

Well, I'm very sorry that you got yourself into this predicament. I'm 13 as well and I would never have sex before I am married, let alone at this age. But I am not judging you, I'm very sorry to hear of all the people our age who are having sex and contracting STD's and AIDS. Also, it seems that no one is using protection anymore.
You should definitely not have an abortion. That is murder. Besides, I think that if you want to have an abortion you have to have parental consent, but I'm not positive.
I think that the best thing for you to do would be to tell your mom. If you talk to her about it before she finds out on her own, she'll be less hard on you. Seriously, talk to her. It will be better for you in the long run. And just remember, mom's are there to love and care for you. No matter what you do she will always love you and she will probably be more sympathetic after she gets over the initial shock and the yelling that she is sure to do. But don't let the yelling scare you away from telling her, because she will yell at you a lot more if you keep it a secret from her and she finds out on her own...which she will.
Please take my advice. Do not get an abortion, and tell your mom.
Hope I helped =)

Answer 4

Honey,
Believe it or not, this is not the end of the world and your mum will not murder you if you turn out to be pregnant. She will be afraid for you and might lash out with anger and fear right off, but she will not kill you.
At 13, your periods might not be quite regular yet. I know you are scared, but there's got to be someone you can talk to. Perhaps a girlfriend or someone you can trust. You need to get your hands on a pregnancy test to find out one way or the other.
No, I don't think abortion is the answer ~ if you're pregnant.
I really think that after all is said and done, you need to talk with your mother. I'm worried about the fact that you don't seem to have a sense of closeness with her and that you fear her in some ways.
Now, take a deep breath and think about what you will do next. Get a pregnancy test and take it. If it comes up positive, then you should get back on here and talk with us women a bit more.
I haven't read all your answers on here yet. I hope nobody is bashing you.
I will say that you are still very young and should be thinking of other things right now. Sex isn't worth all of this worry is it.
((((((((hugs)))))))))

Answer 5

I'm sorry honey.
I was in this situation before. I was actually your age too. I ended up not being pregnant but I learned my lesson.
All I have to say is tell your mom. I know that everyone is telling you this but it's true. You're mom needs to know and it's better now then later on.
Think of it this way, what if you're kid was 13 and got herself or his girlfriend pregnant? Would you want them going behind your back and not telling you until it was to late?

I don't think you would. If you wait until you're three to four months pregnant then you won't be able to have an abortion whether you want one or not. So at least tell her before then.

But no. Abortion is not the answer. Not at all. It's still murder because you're taking a human beings life away. So no.
If anything give it up for adoption. But you shouldn't do that unless
it's absolutely necessary.

I would find a friend or someone you're really close with. If you and you're boyfriend are really close(hopefully you are) then tell him. Tell him of your concerns and what YOU think about it. Discuss you're future and what y'all are going to do if you are.
Maybe y'all could end up telling his parents and they could help you out. It just depends on your situation. You should still talk to your boyfriend. It takes two to tango and it's not all your fault.

When you do tell your mom make sure it's planned out. Don't just go up to her and be like "oh mom, I'm pregnant." That's not the way to do it. If she has an email address email her. That way you can explain yourself, your reasons for everything, why you were scared she was going to kill you. Everything. If you email her you have a better chance of it being planned out and organized. You will also get to say everything you want to say without her interrupting. It will also give her sometime to cool off. So email is a good way. If she doesn't have an email address write a letter.

Also if you're thinking about keeping it. Think about the long term consequences. You will need to support it yourself. So you would need a job. What about school? Doctor visits. Food. Necessities for living. All of this you need to think about.

Baby girl, just hang in there. I know that it's ruff and it's not going to be easy but just take a breath and just think about how much easier it will be when you have someone there by your side.

I'm here for you. If you need someone to talk to... email me.
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Hang in there honey.
It's ok

Answer 6

why dont you actually do a home pregnancy test first and then see what happens. Then if you are, you have to tell your mum, yes she might go off, she will be disappointed and upset to begin with, but be honest with her, and ask her for help because you definantly will need it. Your 13 your not emotionally developed yet to deal with the major consequences of pregnany and/or abortion. If not tell the school councellor, but I think you do need your parents consent to have an abortion at such at early age.

Answer 7

How long has it been? You might be worrying over nothing. If you are pregnant keep the baby and tell your mom. I know you might not want to but, it is the best thing to do. Whatever you do DON'T GET AN ABORTION! If you are old enough to have sex, you are old enough to face the consequences.

Answer 8

y would u have sex when ur 13??u need to go to a plan parent hood clinic...get tested,,,,most clinics dont need parents. i would not recommend u have an abortion! u got into this u need to fully carry it out!! if u r preg and u have the baby u can put it up 4 adoption. make sure u meet the family though and pick them out, there are so many families that want kids and cant have them,,,,and u dont saound like ur responsibke enough to take care for a nother human being!!

Answer 9

Listen, you are way to young to be having sex. I'm thirteen and I don't even have a boyfriend. You have to tell your mom. I know it seems very hard, but trust me, she'll help you. If it is positive, don't get an abortion. It is murder. You should put it up for adoption. If it is negative, then you are a very lucky person.
Hope it is negative. Don't put yourself in this situation again.

Answer 10

You might have to tell her. First you must see a doctor to confirm if you are pregnant and how far along. I don't know when you had sex but if it's been months..it might be too late to abort. If you choose not to abort, she will find out anyway plus you need medical care when you are pregnant. At your age, it can be very dangerous to have a baby.