she asked me to marry her,I said yes
2007-03-03 03:31:17 · 29 answers · asked by domani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
pretty crazy....hold on to your wallet
2007-03-03 03:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't find it crazy at all. both of you might really be in awe of each other. You like her a lot, she likes you a lot. Lightning doesn't strike twice. She's asked you, you said yes after knowing her for 4 days only. It means you both really have something for each other. And this doesn't happen everyday to everyone. It also doesn't mean you will marry next week. You will marry probably by the end of this year or in 3-4 months time. So, you'll have ample time to get to know each other better. Take care my friend and best of luck. I wish I had your luck. I'm with a girl since more than 4 months, I'm madly in love with her and I've asked her to marry me, but she doesn't want because she still have feelings for her ex! Crazy world!
2007-03-03 11:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about taking some time to actually get to know each other? Marriage is a lot more than about than just physical attraction. Once the newness wears off and reality sets in, you will find that you need a lot more than just physical attraction or the infatuation that you currently have.
Marriage is about building love and relationship for the long haul. You have to keep up the romance while balancing that against the distractions of everyday life: raising kids, who takes out the garbage, mowing the lawn, saving for retirement, etc.
You cannot build the foundation for a strong marriage on a 4-day courtship. You need to get real and slow down.
2007-03-03 11:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by Carl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess, the question is what is her motive for marrying you? Visa, money, etc.? How could it possibly be love? What do you know of each other? What religion is she? How does she feel about children? What does she do for a living? What are her financies like? Who are her parents? Hver you met her family? Where did she go to school? What do you know of her history? Can you trust a person that you only met for 4 days with your life and secrets? What sort of deep positive impression could she have made on you that would make her ask you to marry her (very rare for a woman to ask for hand in marriage) AND for you to say "yes". Maybe you should have a LONG engagement. Best wishes and take care.
2007-03-03 11:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a country that believes in arranged marriages - then no. Otherwise, you cannot possibly know a person well enough in four days to be able to tell if they are your mate for life. Are you sure this isn't a case of lust driving you both? Do the smart thing here and take a step back. If you want to make a commitment to each other - agree to being engaged for a few months, but jumping into a marriage that quick would be a 99.9% chance for a quick divorce to follow. You had better discuss this rationally with your bride to be and convince her that she doesn't know you well enough to make that kind of commitment and that goes the same for you.
2007-03-03 11:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what your heart tells you. However, just to share-I accepted a proposal from my EX husband after 6 days and we were married 3 months later and divorced 2 1/2 years later. I should of left him sooner, but was scared too. But I know there are stories of others that knew each other for a short time and they have been married years and years. So again, go with your heart. Good Luck and Congrats!!!
2007-03-03 11:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by oursnowbaby32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what, your both gamblers. There's lots of things much crazier than marriage. Are you opposite in gender, that's usually a good start. Are you of the same persuasion politically. Do you share similar tastes in food. I assume the sex was great. Are you within some kind of age margin, she's only half your age, or in other words, shes 29, your not over 58, acceptable. You'll both need prenups. Ironclad. Get wills also. Your not bigamists, both single. No baggage., both are non-alcoholic. If you've got drug or booze hang ups don't get married.
2007-03-03 12:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be crazy to get married after knowing someone after only 4 days but I have known different people who get married after only 1 date. My parents did and they stay married for 42 years.
2007-03-03 11:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very crazy! You don't even know each other yet. Marriage is hard enough between 2 people who are very close and have been through a lot together. I would suggest taking some time to really get to know each others views, morals, values, goals, quirks, etc. Good luck to you both.
2007-03-03 11:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crazy implies (to me) that you have some medical reason for making that decision, in which case, you should be hospitalized.
After 4 days, in this day and age???? That's just plain stupid.
Are you rich? If so, don't do it without an iron-clad prenup.
Are you well off? If so, don't do it without an iron-clad prenup.
Do you own your home? If so, don't do it without an iron-clad prenup.
Do you have wealthy family members, who may one day die and leave you everything? If so, don't do it without an iron-clad prenup.
Getting the picture? Go ahead a make a stupid mistake today (cause statistics say you will get divorced) but please make sure your behind is covered in the future.
2007-03-03 11:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're asking this question, you have some doubt. I don't agree with everyone here that says it has something to do with sex, sometimes you just click with someone. I clicked that way with my wife, but waited to get married. If you are worried, do a background check on her, or get her to sign a pre-nump. Otherwise, go for it and have fun- there's a lot to be said for spontaneity
2007-03-03 11:38:39 · answer #11 · answered by Mark B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋