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2007-03-03 03:16:00 · 13 answers · asked by Baby Doll 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well Marty, that's a good question. Seems lots of people think in terms of immediate satisfaction or are too afraid they won't find anyone else, so they accept inappropriate short-term satisfaction instead of playing through and establishing love & commitment, then marrying. In short, they decide shacking up is easier than playing the whole course.
The fact that you ask the question shows you are intelligent enough to know what's right and not be distracted from the way society was meant to function.
...my kind of woman....
2007-03-03 03:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by snvffy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any number of reasons; some legitimate and some lame.
What's really at the center of the issue is the relationship, and what each person contributes toward it.
If two people really love one another and are committed to standing by one another through the tough and dark times, there's nothing saying they HAVE to get married. In fact, you probably couldn't separate a couple like that with a tractor and logging chain.
On the other hand, if we're talking about people who always have to "leave the back door open" so they can bail if the going gets rough, then it's just a fear of real committment.
For couples such as ourselves, the issue of marriage was but a minor detail. There was basically no reason NOT to get married. There had always been sufficient trust and love, so we had no aversion to the social institution of marriage.
I find it interesting that a happily married couple doesn't feel the need to "justify" their decision, but those who are "against" marriage have a dozen reasons to defend their position.
2007-03-03 12:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the people. Maybe they have been married 2 or 3 times before and like having someone in there life they just don't want to go through the marriage process.
2007-03-03 11:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because maybe they don't need a piece of paper do prove they love each other. Or maybe the just don't want to get married. The act of getting married is more of a bureaucracy than it is a union. Yeah sure it's a union, but recognized buy who? The US government? So you have to get your name changed, and everything is split down the middle and it costs a lot of money to reverse the decision. Maybe people who choose to be together and not marry are people who, for one, don't want to change aspects of their lives that aren't easy to change, or two would prefer to be with someone and not have to be attached forever.
2007-03-03 11:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by mixedup 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for over16 years and I have discovered that there are a few advantages to not being married, but mostly I think people are afraid of the risk involved such as divorce.
2007-03-03 11:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly because they are afraid of making a lifetime commitment. It gives them a chance to look and act like a married couple without having a legal battle to fight if things don't work out.
2007-03-03 11:30:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is strictly a social convention. It has liitle value except as a legal arena to keep things straight. It does not keep people together. If some one wants out, the legal or religious system will notr stop them.
2007-03-03 11:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Living together last a lot longer than a marriage 60 percent of the time,divorce is to easy these days thanks to our law makers who cares nothing for marriages.
2007-03-03 11:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, good enough to live with good enough to marry! No freebies here!
2007-03-03 18:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it's their lives.
2007-03-03 14:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋