I have 2.5 months old baby, How to train a baby stay by herself while she's awake?

Question

My baby she sleep alot 8 hrs night & 5 to 7 day time. the problem is when she awake after comforting, feeding, playing , reading all the activities she don't wanna be by herself so I end up carrying her till she feels sleepy. I know this is a bad habit because otherwise when she get older she wants to be carry all the time and for me its a big no.. coz I can't do anything like household work. It happens this to one of my friend's baby its about to 2yrs old he wants to be carry all the, pls advice me..

Answer 1

Place her in her crib,immediately walk away while singing,come back to her crib in 15 seconds,do it again and increase the time to 25 secs;keep the process going until she knows that you are near her but not neccasirily in the same room bumping the time up like 5-10 seconds each

Answer 2

Wanting to be carried all the time at 2 1/2 months is normal and you're not doing any harm by carrying her. I know it's a pain not to be able to get any work done, but at least she sleeps a lot.

As she gets older, especially as she starts to be independently mobile, she probably won't mind being put down for a while. Right now she's just a baby, though.

Answer 3

I think your baby still falls into the "too young to be spoiled" category. For now, try to get your housework and such done while she's either asleep or while someone else holds her and cater to her completely when she's awake. When she's a bit older and can entertain herself by sitting up and reaching for and playing with toys, it'll be easier to leave her alone. At that point I might let her cry a bit before picking her up but not now. She's too young. 2 1/2 months is only 10 weeks! Give her whatever she wants for a little while longer. Also, be sure she interacts with other people as well so she doesn't only want you every time she's awake.

Answer 4

My 6 week old can lay quietly by himself for about 10-15 minutes in his playpen. I have some toys stretched across the sides on those plastic linky things, and some blocks with bells that his feet kick, and them I sit him near the tv with some PBS or baby einstien on.

He complains while he's there, but he doesnt sob and carry on like he's got a broken head or something.

he also sits in a little bouncy chair on the counter when iam cooking in the kitchen.

He didnt always do this, it took a few days for him to realize that I was still there, and he was okay. As long as I know he's not wet, not hungry, not tired, and not over stimulated, I leave him there and let him fuss for a few minutes. Usually he will calm down. Once in a while he'll carry on until he's red and I pick him up, calm him down, and put him back. Some times all he needs is just for me to touch him and talk to him, and he calms down.

She wants to be in the same room as you, to be able to hear and see you moving and doing things.

Try putting her in a play pen with plenty of things to see and touch, or in a bouncy seat where she's safe, and then vacuuming that room. The noise will calm her, and she'll spend that time without you realizing she's okay.

Baby steps. 2 minutes here, 5 minutes there, eventually its 15 minutes or more.

Answer 5

It's called being a parent: For a while, you're not going to get anything done when the baby is awake.

It's perfectly normal for a baby of less than 3 months to want to be held all the time. It's not a bad habit that you pick her up all the time, it's a great habit. You are showing your child that you'll be there for her and that she is safe with you. Young babies need to know that the world is a safe and loving place.

As your child gets older, she will want to cuddle less and less. As that happens, and she becomes more independent, you'll be able to get more done around the house.

Don't push her off too soon. Before you know it, she'll be running around playing, and all you'll want to do is cuddle. Get your cuddling time now, the housework can wait.

Answer 6

It is NOT a bad habit and it WILL NOT lead to clinginess later. When you meet an infant's LEGITIMATE needs, they grow into healthy, independant children.

YOU CANNOT SPOIL A BABY W/ TOO MUCH LOVE, HOLDING, OR COMFORTING!!!! What is UNREASONABLE is your expectation that a 2.5 month old should "stay by herself." Your child NEEDS you! Especially so young a baby. They NEED to be close to mom or another caring person most of the day.

Babies who are carried more during the day cry LESS than babies who are not. They tend to be ahead developmentally and are usually more alert. See the AskDrSears.com site as well as his The Baby Book.

Try a baby sling or asian style baby carrier. You can find these on ebay and the NoJo baby sling can usually be found at Babies R Us. "Wearing" your baby can leave your hads free for other activities while meeting your babies needs.

My daughter was a very high need baby. It felt like I had to carry her all the time. When I put her down and tried to make her stay alone, she'd get super fussy. The fussiness would last long after I picked her up too. I realized that she must NEED me. So, I started wearing her in a sling. She was still somewhat of a "velcro" baby when she was 1.5 - 2 yrs, but then she BLOSSOMED! NOw, she's a super independant 4.5 year old. She's extreamely social and outgoing. All that carrying most certainly did NOT make her a dependant mess!

When a baby and child's needs are met, they grow into healthy, independant folks. When their needs are denied, they cannot mature completely in those areas. They can even seem independant, but can have difficulty forming intimate relationships...or they can become excessively clingy. Better to deal w/ the "clingines" now then make it a permanent part of your child's psyche later by forcing "indpendance" now.

If babies could fend for themselves from birth, they wouldn't need parents.

Answer 7

You're child isn't a dog....you can't train them. She is only looking for comfort and to know that you are there and will take care of her. You are not going to spoil a 2 1/2 month old by holding them. A ring sling or pouch may be a good investment for you and your little one.

Answer 8

Your baby is still very young. At first it is so hard to get used to holding a newborn for hours at a time But as the baby gets older she will learn to self soothe herself. Get all your cuddling time in now, because one day she won't want too!

Answer 9

it helps often if the baby can see you. I did the holding thing all the time with my 2 yr old, and shes still super clingy, even crawls into bed with me most nights. My 10 month old, however, can play by herself all the time, cause i made sure not to hold her too much

I used to put her in her bouncy chair (or her car-seat, if u dont have a baby chair) and just give her sum toys, sumthing she can look at, but i always kept her in the same room as me, and talk alot, so they can hear you, and see you. Then, tell her if you have to go downstairs, then just go.Baby might be a lil fussy at first, but it doesnt hurt a baby to cry a little, they will get used to it. And u will feel so much better!

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Answer 11

My son became like this he might consistently stare at me ingesting and cry, i ultimately gave him solids at 4 and a nil.5 months, he had good head administration so I sat him in his comfortable chair and fed him 2 spoonfuls of infant porridge.. He didnt push the spoon out so I knew he became waiting and proceeded to grant him the nutrition and he consume all of it (I waited an entire 24 hours until now attempting him returned) and he progressively had further and extra He became additionally breastfed and that i comprehend he became waiting for solids as quickly as I gave him some.. he's now 6 months and eats porridge of a morning mashed with puréed banana, has puréed fruit of a dinner and a few puréed veg of a evening and he's an exceedingly content textile and chuffed infant and see on in his weight! Mums comprehend superb, as long as infant has good head administration and might consume off a spoon not interior the bottle like rusk (do not try this!) it fairly is high-quality! good success x