Can a guy be blamed for wanting to marry a virgin only?

Question

Everybody likes a brand new car or a new pair of shoes, but if you say your wife has got to be a virgin people start moralizing with you! Why is that?!

Answer 1

if you waited, then you should expect someone who also waited.

if you're a man-whore and you're expecting someone who is pure as a snowflake, well, then you're a giant hypocrite.

either way, i definitely understand why guys go for chicks with little to no experience. girls these days tend to be rather dirty and skanky, so, more power to you for not wanting all the extra baggage.

and.. it's not as uncommon as you think for a chick to be a virgin.

Answer 2

No, you cannot be "blamed," but I do not know if there are many women who still value their virginity in todays world.

I know a very few young women who have reached college age and are still virgins. It is a sad commentary. I am very glad and blessed that I was brought up to remain a virgin until I married. I have never regretted that decision, although I do think that I was part of a minority even at that time.

I have a friend who was in college about ten years ago, and said that she and one other girl that she had met on her college campus were virgins.

There are some young people now who are actually having some type of ceremony or celebration and agreeing to no sex before marriage, signing contracts with their parents and church members.

Maybe you should not be comparing having a virginal bride to a new car or a new pair of shoes, that sounds a bit degrading to say the least! Once you find the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, your sex lives will be private between you; so you really do not need to be advertising this preference to others.

I did not plan on marrying a man who had been married previously, but when we became friends and subsequently fell in love, that worked out perfectly.

I ended up having two wonderful step-children, and considering I was unable to have children of my own, they are a treasured bonus in my life. If I had only wanted a man who was a virgin as I was, I would have missed out on a lot of joy in my life.

Because of my children (I don't care for the step part, they are just as much a part of my heart,) I became a grandmother for the first time when I was still in my thirties, which means I can still keep up with them all.

If you are destined to find your true love, it will happen and she may or may not be a virgin. You probably should be more concerned about her goodness and value as a person and everything else will work out.

Good luck and have a good day!

Answer 3

I guess the question is are you a virgin and how would you feel? Sure, you want the woman to be an absolute thrill when they are with you being it's their first time but what about you? Is this completely a double standard? I'm all for the abstinence before marriage but what if you are married and the woman you love tells you a secret, that you feel you should have known before marriage, that during a weak moment she gave it up or worse what if she was raped, then what? Do you divorce her? Disgrace her, the woman you promised to love til death do you part, in the eyes of your families? What is your motive for marrying a virgin? I think it's absolutely appalling that you would compare the virginity of a woman that you want to marry to a new pair of shoes or a new car! A woman is not a thing! Personally, it sounds like you are one of those men that believe a woman is just another thing that they can own...........but if I'm wrong (which I hope that I am) you should really re-think your words! Best wishes and take care.

Answer 4

You need to decide who you marry. Don't worry about what other people think. I think that if a guy wants to marry a virgin then he should be able to without being criticized! That says a lot about a person if they are still virgins and that may just be the type of person that the man wants. That doesn't mean that he's wrong and he's going to want another virgin after he's already married. I guess it depends on his reasons for marrying a virgin. If his reason is because he admires her character for sustaining her virginity until marriage then I say he's a pretty good man. If he wants to marry a virgin so that he can just sleep with a virgin, then that is wrong because his wife will only be a virgin once! After that, he may want to experience sex with a virgin over and over and that could become a MAJOR problem!!! :)

Answer 5

No i totally understand why a man would want a virgin, and i totally understand why the bible wanted u to remain a virgin as well till ur wedding day.. it reduces so many problems..

If ur a virgin when u get married.. one theres never a question of "was this person better then me in bed" , "Did u do this with anyone else", and there is a bond between two people that waited till marriage .. its something they share, that can never be broken.. ALSO.. people that wait till marriage to have sex.. usually their sex life lasts alot longer after marriage, then those that have been having sex during their courtship.. BUT i feel the biggest problems of not waiting .. is, a girl that has been with men, that were pretty well endowed.. and yet she marrys a man that isnt well endowed at all.. then there are problems not only for her, but for him as well, because if u cant feel it, u cant feel it, or if u can feel it, but not as well as u felt it with partners prior too.. then ur always going to be missing it.. Plus with virgins, they have no clue if sex is great or not, because they have nothing to compare it to..so they tend to be happy with what they have thinking thats the normal..

I think the only problem people would have with u wanting a "Virgin" is if your not a virgin urself..Because at that point it has nothing to do with morals.. it has everything to do with u being double standard, and wanting a trophy instead of a wife.. and if thats the type of man u are, then u will also be the type that trades in his trophy wife for a new wife later on.. and that means ur not a "real " man just alittle boy in a mans body that is spoiled and only wants what he cant have..

Answer 6

It really depends on what kind of life you live. If you are a playboy and keep a sex score car, and then you want a wife that is a virgin. That would make you an azz. That means there is a double standard. In esence you are making a statement that it is okay for me to galavant around, but you are wrong if you do the same. That is the purest definition of a hypocrit.

If you were a virgin yourself, and wanted a virgin wife. That would be understandable. You want someone with a similar moral conscience. That is respectable and fair.

Answer 7

Why? because they don't know what they are talking about. Will he marry a virgin yet ugly, yet disable? Old fashion. Can't blame for wanting to marry a virgin only. If a guy really loves a girl, he won't mind whether she is virgin or not. A guy who says this doesn't meet the girl he loves for his life yet. She may be virgin if he is lucky but where will you find a virgin girl these days? In elementary school? It is just old fashion way of thinking.

Answer 8

Are you a virgin? Because if you're not, that would make you somewhat of a hypocrite, wouldn't it? So, you want a girl that hasn't given it up to anyone. Only if you were yourself a virgin, then you wouldn't get the kind of reaction that you're getting, because morally you're waiting to have sex and seeking a woman that would do the same, until you are married. But it's not like that, right? You just want a girl that hasn't been deflowered yet, a girl who you think you can train and control because she has nothing to compare you to. No wonder people think you're a jerk. That or you're not very good in the bed. That's kind of sick and selfish if you ask me, and guess what, you did ask me. Grow up.

Answer 9

You are comparing your future wife to a brand new car or a new pair of shoes; a materialistic possesion? What about after a year and you've had sex like 400 times? Shoes wear out and cars break down! It's okay as long as you too are a virgin, otherwise it's hypocritical and ignoring the fact that women too have sexuality and needs. My lover says, "it's easier to slip into an old pair of shoes." Hahaha!

Answer 10

Well true love isn't usually that specific and the truth be known depending on how old you are Noe at my age a virgin is not at the top of my list if for no other reason than if she is a virgin and over 30 chances are she has a few hang ups in regards to sex. Besides as far as my own opinion goes I would want a lover who knows at least the fundamentals.

Answer 11

If you are also a real virgin too ...then your expectations of a virgin wife are very valid ....but if you are not then you are a hypocrite ... I seem to sense you are not a virgin since you campare a lady to a car or a pair of shoes ....I think you need to take a long hard look at your self and grow up a lot ....