We are married 4 years, she seems bored with me even though I think I am a decent husband. I just don't wow her anymore, and it seems she is happy to dress up to flirt with other men, but does not make the same effort for me.
2007-03-03 02:48:48 · 29 answers · asked by jonoxk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to her. Ask her why and what's going on. That's something to wonder about!
2007-03-03 02:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think she's stepping into dangerous territory by flirting with other men. You should ask her what's the problem with your relationship before IT'S TOO LATE.
Second, you should spice up your marriage. How did u get her to like u in the first place? Remember those times and try to rekindle some of those feelings in her. Make her want you again..make her miserable without you..do things you 've never thought possible before.
Third, if she starts dressing up you have to start grooming up and keep your charm. You are only married for 4 years therefore you should not feel you are old. Both of you will get old in time but before that you should not look like a slob.
All the Best!!!
2007-03-03 11:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Playa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you worry? Yes, if the other guys are getting more attention than you, her husband. If she's bored after only four years of marriage, what will happen after eight years of marriage? You need to have a long talk with her about her behavior. Ask what you can do to make the marriage better, so she won't have to flirt with other men for attention. You must have done something right, because she married you, didn't she? I hope you two can reach some sort of impasse or maybe it'd be smart to part ways.
2007-03-03 11:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is definitely a problem in your marriage. I don't think it is appropriate for her to flirt with other men and she is totally wrong and heading in a dangerous direction. She may be testing you and trying to see your reaction. What you could do is ask her what is wrong and if there is anything you could do to spice up your marriage. What attracted her when you were dating and engaged? Follow what you did then..you may have gotten too complacent like alot of men. Start by sending her a dozen roses with a card that says: "Just to let you know that I love you"
You could also suggest a weekend away together alone, bed and breakfast hotel, breakfast in bed, lots of love making and romance, candlelight dinner, the works. Show her that you really love her and you find her very desirable. She may realize that what she is doing or suggesting is wrong and fall in love with you all over again. Marriage always has highs and lows, so this is your low. If this doesn't work, try marriage counseling. I think you have forgotten how to communicate with her. Open up the lines of communication again, and you will see a difference. Good Luck to You.
2007-03-03 10:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously looking for the attention that she doesn't get at home from you. If she is bored with you then you need to do something to pep up your marriage. Try bringing a little romance into it, compliment her, do little things for her and above all tell her you love her. We women need all this. You can't stop her going out and flirting, she is not a child but a grown woman. You could try talking to her and asking her where you are going wrong and at the same time say that you love her. Good luck!
2007-03-03 12:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be angry if i was you - this isn't fair. Tell her how you feel and that it's hurting you. She shouldn't be doing this to you as it's wrong. Why not take her away somewhere special for the weekend and do things you don't normally do. Go for a walk on a beach and things like that. Tell her she'll have to stop this though or you'll start doing the same. I think you've been too soft with her maybe - tell her this must stop.
2007-03-03 12:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should worry and that is total crap! My second hubby's first wife told him that and ran off with my husband! Ya, it's bizarra (long story). Don't settle for that crap because I think her "boring" man is the best thing that could ever of happened to me. I love to sit home with him and be bord together. I found out if someone really cares for you they want to be with YOU - not some one else or out with the friends, ect. Oh, and if you don''t ever get invited than that's wrong!! Man, when I realized what I was putting up with I got so mad. My ex and her can have there stupid drama. I'll take the boring stable and loving relationship they threw away. I'd like to wring your wif's neck that selfish ho.
2007-03-03 11:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be a little bored.... its probably normal.... but i think you should step up your game if you really care.
people in relationships start to get comfortable, and start taking their partner for granted... there is no more wooing or trying to impress, and that sucks--for everyone.
mostly because a lady can dress up and go out and have men who are very interested in impressing her and telling her how hot she is and all of that--it doesn't mean that she wants them or would cheat on you, but its the ego boost that she needs to come home and feel like crap around her lack luster husband who doesn't bother to try to make her feel that way.
now, i am not blaming it all on you, but you could try to put a little more effort in to impressing her, and you could talk to her about her lack of desire to impress you any more.
good luck.
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p.s. don't try to stop her.... a girl taking pride in her dress when she goes out on the town is not wrong.... if you think she is actually flirting and giving attention to guys that she wouldn't give if you were there, then maybe you could talk about that.
2007-03-03 10:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marraige doesn't have to be boring. You both have to work at keeping it fun. My wife and I both enjoy getting dressed up and going out. Are you boring? Do you flirt with her? Do you make her feel special? A lot of women need and want attention...even if it is your wife.
2007-03-03 10:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by Quant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your wife is a very insecure woman. If the spice is missing in your marriage, then do things to turn her on...
I'm sure you know her well enough to know what works.
As for not making the effort for you, she probably feels that you might not care? What I would suggest is to find ways, uniques ways to spice things up...perhaps introducing some kinky things, jjust between the two of you of course, and find ways to seduce her mind.
2007-03-03 10:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does it make you feel when she does this? some men enjoy the wife to flirt, some men will let there wives do things with other men and is is a turn on. some men are very jeolous and would want to put a stop to it. if it turns you on, and turns your wife on use it as a fantasy.. its up to you dude.. email me if you want to talk more about it
2007-03-03 10:55:14 · answer #11 · answered by needingitnow342000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋