Why do people here in the US have to grow up so fast and get involved in so many social compromises (marriage/procreation) at such an early age. Do people in the US hate being care-free?
2007-03-03 02:47:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's a part of life my friend. I don't know anybody that this hasn't happened to. That's just the way it goes. That's why i always tell people to make as many friends in this life as possible.
2007-03-03 03:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it vastly hard to believe that marriage and procreation have such an impact on your friendship... unless they were club buddies.
As a mother of two, I never lost a single friendship with any of my friends, (male and female) over either.
It's harder to get out to dance and drink and all with family... but it's not impossible. Talk with your friends.
--Lee Ann
p.s. The average age for having children has risen by almost 10 years in the last 30. In the 50's you got married right out of high-school and started having a family shortly thereafter.
2007-03-03 10:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lee Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, marriage and family is so boring when you can spend your life hanging out online, asking the same question in five different categories, the phrasing of which implies that you are looking down your nose at the people answering your questions (i.e. "not having a college degree" = "idiot" or "being married" = "social compromise/not carefree")
Define "carefree." Seriously. Because, by definition, it means "free of any cares" and no one's life is. Even yours. You still have the basic human needs everyone has: food, clothing, shelter. You must meet those needs. (Incidentally, to revisit an earlier question of yours, I do not have my college degree because I had to abandon pursuit of my degree in order to be sure I could continue to feed, clothe, and shelter myself. It's called "being an adult.")
Even if someone is meeting those needs for you (though I certainly hope, as enlightened and educated and worldly as you are at all of 25 years old, that you are not still living in your mother and father's basement) you need to be concerned about the future. What if something happens to your job, your home, your parents, etc., tomorrow? You have to think about those things. You have to be concerned about those things. If you believe otherwise, then you are simply being ignorant.
As for me, I'm getting married in two weeks. And you're absolutely right. My life is about to get a lot more difficult. I am about to go from being a single guy to a family man. I am about to enter into a situation where my paycheck and my resources will be devoted to feeding, clothing, and sheltering three people, not just one. I'm about to give up being able to go to a concert on Friday night without having to worry about a babysitter. You could probably give me a litany of all the things I'm giving up better than I could.
And I'm doing so voluntarily. And happily. Because no life is carefree. Everyone's life is full of cares. Even yours. The difference between you and your friends, or you and me, is that I have someone to help carry the load. And anything is easier to carry if someone is helping you carry it.
I would seriously like to discuss this with you further. Send me an e-mail if you're interested.
2007-03-03 13:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by JohnD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone does. You're living proof, as well as my boyfriend.
People grow up and change at different rates, and one isn't always better than the other. While your friends are making wedding plans, why don't you go do something awesome like skydiving and meet some new pals?
And remember: once they get married, not everything changes forever. With kids, well...things will be different.
2007-03-03 10:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 37 ive been in a relationship for nearly 22 years with the same man we have grown together but we still do our own things with our friends.we have separate holidays and nights out. you own life doesnt have to come to a end just because you get a partner. im proof of that
2007-03-03 10:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by showmethemoneygolddigger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you meet the right person you'll underastand.
2007-03-03 10:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by tatjana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.....
THIS IS A BIT COMPLICATED,....
FIRST STEP......GET A LIFE U LONLEY SLUT!
SECOND....NOBODY CARES ABOUT UR SAD AND LONELY LIFE...
LOVE YOU CRAZY WHORE!
2007-03-03 10:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋