what would you do?
2007-03-03 02:35:33 · 17 answers · asked by harmony 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
great answers so far. "WTF!?!" is my reply. i can't change how they feel but all of my friends know where i stand. the question is how would you act?
2007-03-03 02:58:45 · update #1
Tough question. The thing is that your best friend probably didn't just become a racist, if they are a racist, they've been one for quite some time. What happened is that you just found out about it.
First thing is to be certain that you really believe that whatever happened to make you feel this way about your friend was as you've interpreted it. It does happen that things slip out and sound bad even if they were unintended. The person may not really be a racist but made a comment that was really dumb and feels badly about it. If that's not the case and you're sure they meant what they said, you now have a choice to make.
You can talk with your friend and let them know how it made you feel. If they care about you, they may listen to reason and decide that they could be a better person if they accepted other people for who and what they are. Unfortunately if they really are a racist, this scenario is probably is a pipe dream. That leads you to choice two.
The second choice is to no longer associate with your friend, since you don't condone racism, and don't want to hang around with people who do.
I feel sorry that you may be losing a close friend.
Good luck.
2007-03-03 02:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by Winger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends are just a friends and try to make up with each other comforts, sharing in many ways, sociolize, take care each other, and company. If a friend it's too much of racist, aggressive, jelous, taking advantage, competion, compare and measure values, before you break up or you still want to continue Friendship, You got be alert, straighten, honest, be calm and talk to them and show How you feel about racist matter. I really don't like if any body Who racist and look down on me and it's really painful, hurt, lack of self-respect, self-image, dignity, feel bad about person by other Friends being racist and shame for other to hang around. If the Person never change, and still racist, I advice that person not dersrve to have a sincere Friend like you or those who better qualities, attitudes, caring, loving, true, Friends. If a person has a racist problem, that person is hatred, proud, arrogent, sarcastic, dis-honest Friend i can judge and truly give you a right answer about racist disgrace humanity.
2007-03-03 10:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being racist is a form of ignorance and fear. The best thing to do is be a good example, and speak up when racist comments are being spoken about. Educate and set proper boundaries with this person as they are probably immature in other areas.
2007-03-03 10:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Racism is more of a social phenomina then an individual's attribute. The origin of it is nothing more than group bullying. Therefore, I will try to help him / her see the big picture and revew who he / she is closely associated with. If he / she doesn't value my opinion, and respect my ideals, he / she can not be a friend to me at the first place. So I will then walk out.
2007-03-03 10:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by Raju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's a rumour, find out it's reliability.. if it's confirmed true, then confront him/her.. if it's true, tell them how i feel about racism (how it sucks and everyone has the right to be treated equally and cannot be stereotyped by race) and ask them to stop.. if they refuse, i know they don't have the right to be my friend and i'll let them know about that as well.. giving my full reasons of course! but being racist is simply disgusting and they could be jailed for it!
2007-03-03 10:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by `just hanging around xD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youo need to talk to him about it. If he is a friend... he'll listen. otherwise, what kind of a friend is he? Sometimes people do have jokes and he probably did notmean it. If your around friends and it's all jokes.. usually that's all it is...Jokes. But seriously, confront your friend, andlet him see your light of the situation.
2007-03-03 10:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by richard b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The friendship would have no option but to deteriorate since I have no respect for racists.
2007-03-03 10:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by AZ123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can not change their minds over night but just being a friend and explaining and talking about the pain it causes you would be a good start..
2007-03-03 10:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't be happy about it. I may not be able to be friends with that person because I have people dear to me who aren't just like me.
2007-03-03 10:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is probably not a good idea to be associated with them.
And you could dig a little deeper of why.
2007-03-03 10:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋