Why do women marry bad boy violent types?

Question

They just found the michigan womans torso in her garage and her husband committed suicide. Are most women just plain naive?

And don't tell me there were no signs or red flags before marriage.....

Answer 1

Most women are not naive, just like most men aren't violent. Some women like the drama, some have low self-esteem and don't think they can do better and some just settle for the first guy that comes along. I don't get it either.

Answer 2

Some women grew up in abused families and are not strong enough emotionally or mentally to break away from that. Sure their are red flags, detours, warning signs but they don't always recognize them until it's too late and by then they are too scared to leave. Some women leave but then are pulled right back in to their old lives by these abuse husbands that overpower them because thaty have no assistance, support or don't know where to go for that. They are like abused animals hiding in the corner of an cage in a dark room. They are just scared and they don't know their own worth, so they don't find the courage that they have somewhere inside them to come out and finally leave them; in some cases, even if it meant die.
Yes, some women are naive but then again so are some men. The thing is that these women rationalize to themselves that this is the man that she married, he loves her because he's said so even if with every act he does he says that he could care less and owns her. The sad fact is that these women did it to themselves, they let the man "own" her because she did not value herself more than her man and did not believe that she was worth as much as him because he didn't let her believe it. He didn't let her know that she was worth something because he needs to diminish her value in order to make himself feel less of the man that he already feels.
Marriage is not about control or who is worth more. Both partners are equal in value and yet recognize the differences in areas of strength. We don't hurt the ones that we love in order to make ourselves feel better but rather raise them up to make ourselves feel proud.

Answer 3

There usually aren't any red flags...In my abusive relationship he was a "prince" in the beginning. He sent me flowers at least once a week.. When he arrived for a date he would bring me candy as well as small boxes for my sister and my mother and usually beer for my dad. In fact he got along very well with my family. He treated me like a princess. Not just opening doors but if we were caught in the rain without umbrellas he would take off his jacket and hold it over my head so I wouldn't get wet. He would fix me dinner/lunch and bring it to where I worked so I wouldn't have to spend my "hard earned" money on going out for lunch/dinner. He drove me to work and back so I could save money on gas for my car. He took me to all kinds of wonderful places and showered me with gifts. He actually COURTED me. We became engaged, and then I moved in with him and that is when the trouble started. Women stay with these men out of fear. If you've never had an assault rifle pointed at your back then you have no clue. When I finally left (and I won't go into the details here), as I was shutting the door a shot gun blast blew past my head...I didn't stick around, got in my car and backed out of the driveway and didn't look back. A few years later he wound up doing life in prison for beating his third wife to death...I was going to be his third wife...Even his own family had no clue about him.

Answer 4

they really believe that they can fix him, by marrying them. bad men are exciting to some, think women with a low self esteem will attract these types of guys. not naive just in love with the wrong man. something in her childhood, the way she was raised, causes this.

Answer 5

Not most, I'd never marry a violent man. That's certainly not attractive! Then again, people snap! We never know what we really are capable of until it's too late! Don't take it out on all women because of one womans misfortune.

Answer 6

Usally this envolves someone with low self esteem .when you already dont think much of yourself and some one pays you some attention your easily attracted to them.Its all about someones on self esteem. If you think you deserve better then you want settle for anything less.If you think you are a piece of _ _ _ _ then you usally get treated that way. It has nothing to do with trying to change someone. Good question

Answer 7

Women are looking for a dominant man and they mistake the "bad boy" types for him. A man does not have to be bad to be dominant. He just has to be firm, refuse to let her run over him, protective of her, confident in himself, etc. Those kind of men are in short supply in America. Sad.

Answer 8

99% of the time its because their fathers told them that they are worthless and no one will ever want them. So you find gorgeous smart and successful women on the outside, marrying violent or sometimes just unsupportive males, who reflect their inside self image of themselves.

Answer 9

Women are attracted to and marry "bad" boys because they think they can change them with their love.

Answer 10

well a lot of women are atracted to "Bad boys"" and like all the drama, but in the end, usually the bad boy ends up screwing up somethin he can't fix and the women leaves him. so dont screw anythin up