my boyfriend and I recently had intercourse for the first time and he said it wasnt all that great. Is there anything I can do to make it feel better to him? What do you really do during intewrcourse?
2007-03-03 02:17:53 · 15 answers · asked by The Worrywart 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
its my first time, not his
2007-03-03 02:30:33 · update #1
its not only u who should do all gr8 thing to make him happy, its his part too, to make it happen great.
so dont take the blame and tell him insted that he should also do it better.
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2007-03-03 02:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first time won't be great, I don't know anybody who says it was. That said he may not have had a virgin before so thats why hes actin like a*s, when you do it more it will get better, only on t.v. is it all wonderful my 1st time was a disaster. Try it a few more times if he still acting up kick him to the curb cause he's a selfish impatient a*s.
Good luck
and make sure to use protection like condoms.Even if it's your 1st time you can still get pregnant & a std.
2007-03-03 02:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by "Angel" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time is never good, for him or her. Better sex comes with experience, you eventually find out what is good for you and for him, but the question is, Was he just saying that cuz he wanted to be the first? Have you been together for awhile? There are a lot of questions and answers to this sort of question, but honestly I wouldn't let it bother you, as I said, the first time always sucks. If you want advice, I do kegels during intercourse, it is great for both of us.
2007-03-03 02:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First you need to UNDERSTAND HOW THE PENIS WORKS!
The shaft needs constant, steady, rhythmic, stroking. Its all about rhythm and building momentum. Sudden jerky movements are ametuerish, you'll need a lot of stamina. A lot of guys can't *** while the girl is on top, simply because she can't keep up the same position for too long. So find a position that's comfortable for you and keep pumping long and deep. And lick it, spit on it, or whatever to keep it very moist and slipperry. It may feel like a work out, but if you really find him sexy and you're relaxed, your endorphines will go bizerk! All that sweat and heavy breathing is what makes it hot!
If you are on the bottom, pump back. don't just lay there. An easy way to find rhythm while on your back is to wrap your legs around him (but don't put too much wieght on his back) , or put your legs over his shoulder (raise your leg, bending at the hips until your knees touch your shoulder and your calves are on his shoulders). And don't forget to moan, grab, pull, stroke, suck, kiss, caress and most importantly COMMUNICATE. Ask him how he really likes it.
ALWAYS USE A CONDOM!!! AND IF YOU'RE NOT COMFORTABLE TALKING ABOUT IT, YOU'RE NOT READY FOR SEX.
2007-03-03 03:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by in training 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is up to the guy to teach you what he likes, and it is up to you to learn what you like to teach the guy. It is not fair to either of you for him just to criticize without offering any suggestions or examples.
If he is "experienced", he should know what he likes and should be able to communicate that to you by example, if not words.
There are many books available at your local library, like Dr. Ruth's or possibly "Joy of Sex", that can provide diagrams as well as advice on how to learn what makes intercourse pleasurable for a female.
My husband would say, the more enjoyable it is for the female, the more stimulating for the male.
2007-03-03 02:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm NOT laughing. I understand this is important to you. I believe that you may be trying out sex a bit too young, however. The important question is 'how was it for you?'...........I mean that THAT is just as important as how it was for him. What makes you think he did the right things, if you didn't enjoy it? Slow down, with age comes more natural moves during sex. Please, use a condom, and don't let anyone say they don't need one. It's your life, not just a time in your life.
2007-03-03 03:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by laurel g 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds pretty insensitive and selfish.
How was it for YOU? What did he do to try to make it great for YOU? It's takes both partners' participation for sex to be a good experience (for most people...excluding pervs and fetishists and such), and the first time for a lot of couples isn't that great because it takes time to learn each others' bodies and likes and dislikes.
2007-03-03 02:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by Arkayp 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first is the worst. Both of ya are nervous and inexperienced so just keep trying different things. It will get better. Communication is key so tell him what feels good to you and what doesn't. Make sure he does the same. Good luck! Have fun, be safe and relax so you CAN enjoy it!
2007-03-03 02:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you were a virgin but he wasn't and HE was griping about it not being great, then that's HIS fault, not yours. If he has some experience, then HE should know what to do to make it better.
As for you, I would recommend finding one (or more!) of several books and read them: The Joy of Sex, Sensational Sex, Sex and Loving, or the Ultimate Sex Book.
All of them are very in depth about what to do and how to do it. EVERYTHING is covered.
2007-03-03 03:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hm wait..it was the 1time for both of u? if yeah its normal..the 1time isnt really pleasant anyways..only gets better after while of practicin.lol..but after while and he still feels the same way...kick him,lol. and to have great sex. try to 4play a lil b4 the intercourse, have a lil oral, and then u kno wht 2do.
2007-03-03 02:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋