KIDS OBLIGATIONS IN THE HOME! Please give age and if in School or Employed?

Question

I have found varying degrees of help for mom and dad in the home.
Some Kids don't help at all and when asked become angry. This applies even more for the kid with a car who is working.

Where do you stand on this issue and why?

Answer 1

I have 5 children, two left at home. From the time they were 3, they had chores - starting with picking up toys to helping paint the house and mow the law when they were older.

Giving a child chores helps to show them they can do things and do them well, they learn how to do things, they learn they are part of the team. They learn respect and responsibility. Of course they are going to argue, but I've always let them say what they have to say, and my stock reply is "Thank you for letting me know how you feel. Now, go do your chores, please." Then I leave the room and don't listen anymore. It is expected in our home that you have chores and do them regularly.

We have a routine in our home: homework and chores first; then relax. Then everyone is at the dinner table for dinner, the kids clean up and the rest of the evening belongs to them. This gives us a chance to monitor homework and to hear about their days.

When my children reach (and reached) the age of being able to work after school and in the summer, we had a rule: 10% tithe, 20% savings and the rest was theirs to spend. We didn't give them extra money or allowance when they had their own. They had to learn to budget what they had.

The car issue: They pay for 1/2, we pay the other half of the purchase price. They pay their portion of the insurance and all the gas and maintenance. If they can't afford it, they don't get the car. Real world issues.

As parents we have a wonderful opportunity to raise children to be content, productive adults and we don't do that by giving into every whimper and whine and by giving them everything they want. That isn't reality. We won't be around to bail them out of every financial, employment or relational difficulty, they need to learn that themselves and the best place to teach that is at home, where if they fail, they have a soft, loving place to land.

Be blessed.

Answer 2

well when my son turned 16 we told him we would help him get his 1st car and we did,But that he had to get a job and pay his own car Inc which he did .He got many speeding tickets,We did not pay for any of them! He did.I am not saying from time to time that we did not give him gas money or help him a bit when needed because we did.He was in High school and had a job the whole time he was in school.He is 21 and married and has a Great job and is a Very responsible young man.we have the Job to teach them what the real world is going to be like,we can not sugar coat it.

Answer 3

I have my kids keep their room's cleaned and they help with dinner they also pull weeds since I do the mowing! They do their own laundry and keep their bathroom clean.
I believe this will help them when they are old enough to be on their own. Knowing work does not stop when school or work is done will keep them on the right path!