a soft-spoken person who will usually only speak when spoken to?
2007-03-03 01:50:42 · 12 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
maybe because they are not sure how to take that person and why he/she won't speak! They might think that person isn't interested, they might be shy themselves! Maybe it helps to get started with eye contact or a smile to signal you are interested!!!
2007-03-03 02:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by ღ Katja ღ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While growing up, the household rule was be seen but not heard and if I did try to join in, I was given the look. To this day, I really hate that look. It's been branded into my psych forever, making me very bitter. When someone speaks up, no matter how tiny their voice, it's almost always a good idea to listen because these people don't go on and on and yadda yadda before finally finding their intended point. Quiet people have been inadvertantly programmed to get the point across in a "nutshell" And I would be willing to guess these quiet ones are excellent writers! Do what ya gotta do, huh? And why do I think quiet people are avoided? Not only was I avoided, but I became an object of ridicule because it was assumed I would not fight back. That changed. Not greatly, but I'm working on it. My mumzee raised a victim. Thanks ma. Yes. It's a good idea to look back on your two significant roots, dear old mom and dad.
Another reason is the quiet person probably was forced to join in whatever social situation, are afraid people really don't give a darn what they have to say and feel useless. They've been shut down by everyone who is more aggressive..these aggressives also can thank their mom's and dads for raising them on achiever's advantage. A lot of shy people are antisocial, impoverished, have a small wardrobe and cheap shoes, and know for a fact they are not superior to the fabulous people..because it makes sense, if you have nothing, you are nothing..very simple. It's all in the programming. How do you like my cheap shoes?
2007-03-03 11:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by Maxine Michele 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because that person doesn't seem to be interesting.
Most people can't seem to enjoy spending time with someone that will only speak if spoken to, it makes them feel uncomfortable.
I used to be soft spoken and liek that until I realized it kept me from having friends. Now I have two awesome friends.
2007-03-03 09:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by kaeh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people are superficial and impatient. They presume a quiet person must have a psychological disorder. Most of all, it's too much of a bother for them to take the extra time to get to know the person.
2007-03-03 10:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't know what to say to you. Sometimes you have to initiate the conversation before people will talk to you. I am this way and because of that see many other people forming relationships and friendships while i seem to stand on the outside. In order to have friends and get people to talk to you, you must first show them that you are worth talking too.
2007-03-03 10:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oft-times, "the only when spoken to people" put off an aloof vibe, like they don't want bothered.
2007-03-03 10:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by raggnaar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just like it when others go and talk to them. But i know how it feels not to be approached, because im supposedly a very unapproachable person.
2007-03-03 20:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by theflame_inside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people like being approached as much as they like being the the one doing the approaching.
2007-03-03 09:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are more moved by the outgoing ones. You have to speak up to get attention.
2007-03-03 09:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by Benvenuto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause they are superficial and shallow.
Who needs the fair weathered friends?
2007-03-03 13:20:05 · answer #10 · answered by starrdevine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋