need advice on night out with my hubby?

Question

its been ages since we've been out together after having two kids and not having a babysitter.

we have gone through rough patch recently as sex life has gone, and our relationship has a lot of jelousy and paranoia in it as we dont spend any time together as a couple.

we have decided to go out next weekend but he has left me to decide what we could do. we live in chester(uk) and can travel by transport up to 10 miles from there. we cant go out till 7pm as i want kids in bed for babysitter and would have to come back for around 11pm.

can anyone give me any ideas on a nice night out? we will be going out for meal but also, would like to do something else too.

we dont want to go out drinking heavily or clubbing as we want to spend time together and be able to chat and have fun together.

Answer 1

Wow, 4 hours only eh? That's not alot of time. We usually do dinner and a movie. Our daughter usually puts our little one to bed. I really would suggest finding more time alone. Perhaps find a sitter who can put the kids to bed. We also usually do an overnight at a adults only resort for our anniversary every year. A resort that also has some same day checkouts. See if you have something like this near you. Go to the website below. Anyway, it's just the 2 of us, all night. Again, our 14 year old can watch the little one. I suppose you could talk after dinner for awhile. Then you'd have to rush back home again. That's no fun. I'm no marriage counselor but it seems you 2 defintely need more than 4 hours alone.

Put it this way, there is really nothing else you can in 4 hours after dinner, except talk. Most other things take time and your gonna be out past 11 anyway.

The place on the website below has sound proof rooms....for you know what of course. There are no kids allowed and you and your husband can talk and do whatever else you like.

well Good luck

Answer 2

Hello

you don't live that far from Grindley Brook. Why don't you try one of the pubs there that do nice meals. The Horse & Jockey is by the canal at the Bottom of the Locks. After you have had your meal you could go for a nice walk along the towpath. give you a chance to chat.

For another time - see if you can get someone from friends or family who can look after your children overnight.

I told my partner I had booked a meal in a local hotel just 5 miles from home. Then surprised my hubby with a night in the hotel, room service and me wearing some seductive lingerie. No worry about kids, no stress etc. He loved it

Answer 3

not to intrude, but i think you should ease up on the time constraints, the kids will be fine & it sounds like you need way more than 4 hours to remady this dilemha of yours.

take the whole day off, get a relative or close freind to take the kids for atleast 24 hours, get out of bed early in the morning and start your day with something adventures, then go for a brunch & do some walking (on the beach if you live near the coast) then go back home, fool around but don't go all the way, get dressed, go to a fancy resturante ... walk back home if possible... lite some candles & fill up the tub ( you know the rest)...

next day go get your kids & enjoy the fruits of your pleasurfull efforts.
now i could explain what each task would benifit you and in what way but that will take ages, e-mail me if your intrested otherwise just trust me, it's wourth it...

Answer 4

who says you have to leave home to be alone with each other. put your kids to bed make sure they are asleep. prepare ahead of time the bedroom and bathroom, light candles around the tub or room,have bubble bath, two glasses and wine.(or whatever drink you prefer).. In the bedroom place a blanket on the floor candles lit for romance. soft low music playing, order take out food to be pick up or be delivered.. have dinner in the bedroom then afterwards fill the tub with a nice hot bubble bath. both of you relax in the hot bath, drink wine, chat, use your imagination be creative, try something different. sit aside once a week to do this after the kids go to bed.. that way you don't have to pay for a babysitter or the cost of travel, or expensive restraunts, i am such a romantic fool .. i have to do all the planning my husband does have a romantic bone in his body ..

Answer 5

Dinner is great and then a movie or a walk would be nice, but.....don't let the evening end when you get home. The kids will be sleeping. Light some candles, put on music if you both like music, and take your time like you used to when you first got together.

Answer 6

My hubby likes it when I mild a great number of candles contained in the mattress room, dress in something horny, get out the warming oil and commence the evening off with an entire body rubdown. This helps to loosen up him and also provides me a danger to provide some interest to three particular aspects to help get his motor operating. What you opt for to do after it truly is as a lot as you reason he will easily be contained in the mood.

Answer 7

Do you have a special place you met to go to nearby?
It might help revive some old memories and open up
communication between you.I hope it all works out for you.Balancing a life with kids and some time with a husband is not easy.

Answer 8

That is really sweet.Well I think you should dress very sweetly
not sexy but beutiful somthing that will remind him o fthe old time together.Go out for a formal dinner not all so romantic but formal (dont mean go out for a pizza).Talk and make jokes good ones be yourself he is your hubby your one and only hubby (i think) so you know him very well fronm front to back try to dance somwnere and just remind him about all the good times make his happy inside and dont forget to be nice to he wants to be treated like your favourite candy you love it always no matter what happens:) hope this helps



God bless!

Answer 9

yes raven 1 is correct dont go out , for u can save money for b sitter for the restuarant just cook nice foods bring out red wine , flowers in bathtub and red panty to cover the lamp and a music for u will dance, soft music ,u will do this if kids are sleeping

Answer 10

why not go for a nice candle light dinner followed by the movies or the tether oh how romantic