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Question

i m 14 yet but my parents dont let me do anything.i cant go out ,cant dye my hair,they dont even allow me to do chatting also.... where else my friends they do all these things.r my parents doing the rite thing with me or not??????

Answer 1

This is a challenge isn't it.
But I would have to agree with your parents only because I know that your are a pretty girl and I know if you were my child I wouldn't let you do this also.
First of all your only 14 yrs old and you don't seem to watch t.v. very much about all the prowlers going around.
They are in the right for protecting you from all the on-line prowlers and abusers that kids your age have to face.
Now with the hair, I really don't see why you want to change it for.
Are you trying to impress some friends?
Don't try so hard to fit in cause if they want to be friends with you than they will accept you for you not what you look like.
Just listen to your parents, I understand they are strict on you but when you have children someday all their advice will come chasing you down and you will be the same for your chilren and I'll be answering their questions too.
Just hang in there.
Good Luck

Answer 2

My 15 year old has the same complaints about us. We don't play the "all my friends do it, why can't I" game with her. IWe don't allow any of our children to have My Space or chat online. Computers are a great place for danger to lurk and you aren't even aware of it.

Parents have a few more years experience and know that some things aren't safe for you yet. If you are allowed to do things at 14, what's left for 15, 16, 17 and 18? You will want to be playing in "18 year old waters" when you are only 15 and you won't have the experience or maturity to deal with it.

My suggestion would be to show your parents you are maturing. Don't get into a snit if they tell you no, don't argue back. Those behaviors prove you aren't mature enough to do what you are asking to do. Acknowledge that you understand that they are trying to keep you safe. And let it go for awhile. Make sure your behavior in ALL things, chores, homework, boundaries and house rules is above questioning. They will notice and begin to relax a bit.

Practical suggestion: Make a list of all the things you'd like to do - change your appearance, get a cell, chat online, get body piercings, go on dates, etc. Whatever it is. Then decide what you really want. Talk to your parents about what you really want and offer them a plan to show that you can handle it.

Example: If it is chatting, give them your email and your password so they can monitor it occasionally. When they see you are being mature and not engaging in dangerous behavior, they will see they can trust you. Get the idea.

I wish you well. But remember, parents love you and want only the best for you. Their intentions are wonderful, sometimes it's difficult to know how to execute the plan though. Be gentle with them.

Answer 3

Hey sweetie...I know it's so frustrating and doesn't seem fair. All teens go through this of varying forms with their parents. The main thing you must realize is that they love you and are trying to protect you from harm.

Specifically...good idea not to dye hair so young because it's a lot of chemicals going in your body at such a young age. There are concerns about women getting certain cancers if they have been exposed to hair dye for many years. Besides...you were born a certain way...natural always looks best sweetie! Work with what you have with a fabulous funky sexy cute hair cut and you don't need to dye it. If you want blonde highlights...you can always buy the light over the counter 'sunlight in' stuff with a few blonde streaks for fun and it washes out.

Chatting....yes it is very dangerous at your age and kids, even adults can be fooled by perverts and weirdos! So please don't worry about that one right now. I'm sure as you get older you will get those privileges. As much as it is a way of life now these days...it is still a privilege and there are so, many freaks out there posing as teens. I wouldn't worry too much about that one. Just do emails and phone calls with your friends. It won't be like this forever.

The only thing you can do is maybe talk with them both and say it in a calm, honest way....that you understand they are concerned about your safety...but if they would teach you what to look out for...would they consider allowing you to chat for a certain time and see how it goes. I think chatting gets very addictive and distracting from your school work and homelife...for kids and adults alike!!! So if they are wanting you to stay focused on other things...this may be another reason.

I'm sure it is not you...but they want to keep you safe and on target with school and community.

These are the angst of the teens and you are not alone. Be thankful you have parents that care! My parents did not...and I got myself in plenty of very scary and life altering bad situations. While it sucks now...it's not forever and you really will be glad in the end.

Take care of you and keep smiling. There is much to be grateful for.

Best wishes!

Answer 4

I know this is hard, but I wish my mom would've paid more attention to what I was doing. At fourteen I dropped out of school and I had a baby two months before I turned fifteen. It can happen to anyone who isn't careful. I now have a sixteen year old, a twelve year old, a nine year old, a two year old, and a seven month old. I love my kids, but because of wrong choices I'm a single mother who FINALLY got to start college. I can't remember life before I was a mom. I know the things you want to do don't seem like they lead in that direction, but you would be surprised at how fast things can get out of your control. Can you imagine how strict I am with my kids? I have four daughters and I want to protect them more than anything.

Answer 5

Mother of a 12 year old...stay away from chat. I won't let my kids either. It's dangourous out there. Accept that and appreciate the fact your mom and dad are keeping you safe. Dying your hair will kill your hair. Wait at least just a couple of years..that way your hair won't look like crap in a few more years. Tell your parents to let you have MSN and let them in on your list. Tell them who everyone is so they can build up trust with you. I do let my kids have msn...9 and 12...Prove you're responsible and maybe they'll change.

Answer 6

Your parents r nt allowing you to chat may be because u r 14,and at this stage u have to study for your s.s.c. For dying your hair u r very young.and dnt do it nt only because ur parents are telling you but also it will spoil your hair quality.So take it positively.And do not compare yourself with anyone because there could be something that u can only have and not your friends.Parents can get very strict at time but do not think bad about them. Once you will complete your school and will go to college,u will get to do many things. so cheer up!

Answer 7

I think that your parents are doing the right thing. I just got married and now I have a 16 yr, daughter. Her father and I don't let her go out unless we meet the people first. My step daughter has some friends that we don't care for,but if she wants to see them, they have to come to our house to see her. Give your parents the respect of knowing whats best for you. I hope this helps you.

Answer 8

Dear,
I understand you... you are like that bird you has just developed your wings. you know how to fly, but you don't understand the dangers of life.
parents are the best in this; rely on them and they will guide you. things like dying hair, chatting wearing anything, etc looks appealing at first but ask the one who had gained that over-freedom... They will blame their parents and not themselves.
parents knows you the best and they do you harm to you. they work for your betterment everyday and you are fortunate to have such caring parent. i understand you have gey restless, but as days will pass they will understand that you are big enough to fly alone. they shall let you free. You are just 14 ! you have a long way to go. Be slow and try to behave yourself in the best manner so that your parents began to trust you that you won't decieve them and never betray their trust.
Lots of love
Ram

Answer 9

Okay... maybe they're a bit overprotected. But look at the bright side, it's for your future. By the way, I'm also 14, and yes my parents let me do something and they don't let me do other things. Parents have their own way of protecting us. And sometimes we get so pissed off by them, without knowing that every decisions tehy made is for us.
Let's try to understand that... ( I know it's so damn hard )

Answer 10

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u r really stupid yaar u r just 14 n u want to enjoy those things which u can do it any time yaar its your life but now to r a student i am not saying that u hav no right to enjoy stupid go out play with your friends n hav fun read books n see your parent will not say anything to u.

just tel m if u hav any younger brother or sister n he/she want to play with fire what u will u do just try to understand their point of view they r just doing what a good parent hav to do to their child.

chatting, dyeing, going out, and any thing u can do it your friends r enjoying i know but u r enjoying the love and care of your parent just love them n behave like a 14 yr child and enjoy

happpppppppppppy holi to u dear and to ur family