About 6 weeks ago my friend had sex and now she has sympotms of pregnancy.She is in 8th grade should she get an abortion or have it??PLEZZZZZZZZ give your opinion.
2007-03-03 01:28:46 · 21 answers · asked by Courtney B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Please encourage her to speak to a medical professional. She needs all the guidance and support she can get.
2007-03-03 01:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by John of shrysostom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know this is a very personal choice. I am anti-abortion. I could never do it. This is a very young girl who is in a very rough spot. She really needs to talk to somebody who can help her get through this, maybe a counselor if she is too scared to talk to her parents. Yes she is very young. A friend of mine had an abortion at 16 and I really think it eats her up inside. She has mentioned that the baby would be almost 4 now. I think it makes her sad. She now has a son and is pregnant again but still feels bad about the abortion. I also have a friend who gave one up for adoption and carries pictures of him with her and is also sad when she talks about it. Then I have a friend who has had 4 abortions and doesn't seem to care. It is personal and it can affect her if she does and will affect her either way.
Having a baby is a huge responsibility and it is hard. I know I have one and another on the way. My cousin has three kids and had her first at 16 and is actually doing really well. She is married to the father of the kids and they have a house a bout a nice car in a nice neighborhood.
I guess what I'm trying to say is life is weird and throws curveballs and all that stuff, and yes she is young but this choice is not for us to make its hers to make. She should have support though and people to talk to and she should definitely think things through. She is very young, I hope she can talk to her parents about all this but please encourage her to talk to atleast a counselor and to see if she'll take a test. Maybe she's not, you know? And if shes not tell her to be careful.
2007-03-05 15:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by michellekyle12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a former young single mother, I can tell you that your friend would stop growing if she chooses to have the baby (pregnancy stops growth in adolescents), she would have issues trying to find a place to live with the baby, that continuing school is almost impossible, and that the social stigma (almost no one will want to help an eighth grader with a baby) will be very difficult...she should speak to an adult she trusts, who will help her make the best decision for herself and the baby.
I would recommend talking to Planned Parenthood...I am not recommending an abortion necessarily, but many anti-abortion people will protest abortion, but not help once the baby is born.
Thank you for being a caring friend, and encourage her to get help as soon as possible!
2007-03-03 09:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by jgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs to go see a doctor and be tested for pregnancy, if she waits too long it could do damage to her baby and in the end do damage to her as well. If she is pregnant tell her to think of if the father will be involved and if she will be able to continue school and find a way to make money to support a child. When she sees her doctor tell her to ask about her options. Also, try calling your local plannedparenthood, they're very helpful with whatever choice she makes and will give her any information she asks for.
2007-03-03 09:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by wordtothat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-03 09:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Girl 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i don't believe in abortion personally !! she needs to do what she feels in her heart and i think deep down she knows what she needs to do. babies are precious and their lives should be spared because they can't help when they were conceived and i take it she has a good heart and if she did have an abortion it woulfd haunt her for the rest of her life but again she needs to do what she thinks is right no matter what anyone says!! but if it was me i would not get an abortion !!! and she isn't pregnant she needs to tell her parents to put her on birth control or use some type of protection god Bless!! p.s. my cousin has a baby and he is in the 9th grade but he loves that baby and wouldn't have it any other way!! god bless!!
2007-03-03 09:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by greenjeans1986 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend needs to talk to her parrents about this. If she isnt brave enough to talk to them you should be her friend and do tell them for her. This is too big an issue to handel on her own. I have a daughter and I would want her to come to me so we could figure this out toghether. She made a mistake and had sex before she was ready to handel it. There are also other questions to be answered like aids and veneral disease just becasue some one dosent look like they have it dosent mean anything. AIDS can lie dormant in a persons body for 10 years with no symtoms but that person can still pass it on to someone elese. PLease tell for her if she cant do it good luck.
2007-03-03 09:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by chevytrk1232000@yahoo.com 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she need to seriously have a talk to her parents about all this. Noone in the 8th grade should be having sex at all, nevermind having babies. If she wasn't grown up enough to know that she wasn't doing the smart thing by having sex, how does she expepect to do the right thing when deciding to have the baby or not??? Talk to an adult!!! Get some help!!!! Whoever this is really needs it!!!!
2007-03-03 09:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by ஐ♥Just Call Me Mommy♥ஐ 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your friend needs to talk to her parents and then go to the doctor and get a prgenancy test. I don't really agree with abortion, but it her and her parent's decision. I think she kind of young to be having sex, but what's done is done. Hopefully her and her parents can come up with a solution.
2007-03-03 09:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first and foremost, she needs to take a test. She may be freaking out so much she has "phantom" symptoms. She may not be, so find out for sure. If she is, I would say she needs to enlist her parents to help her decide. If she can't go straight to them, then a school counselor can help her with talking to them. In 8th grade, you can not go through this alone. You need adult help.
2007-03-03 09:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your friend should not by any means have abortion. As a former fedus I say no to abortion. Your friend should have the baby and put it up for adoption if she doesn't want it, but she shouldn't kill a harmless baby. I hope this advice helps!
2007-03-03 09:34:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋