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Question

Just for all you who think i am being such a jerk i'm not. i was and still do joke when i post those questions about "do you think i'm good looking". I'm putting this question in this category because i'd like chris to read it lol. and yes i have been insecure recently for personal reasons but nothing to do with my q's lmao x

not chris. some guy called "unclefrank".

Answer 1

Did you mean me when you said Chris? I didn't think you were being a jerk - I just don't see the point in a young straight man asking a load of LGBT folk for comments on his looks. Although you did piss me off the other week with your "why do y'all think I'm gay when all I asked is 'am I good looking'" question.

Insecurity is something that we all have to face off. Some remain ignorant of what keeps them from being secure, others address their issues.

I hope you're the latter kind. Overcoming your troubles will breed confidence. Self-assuredness (along with a sense of humour and signs of intelligence) are an important part of a man's arsenal when he's out on the pull. His looks will only get him so far.

Answer 2

Insecurity is an emotion of general unease or nervousness without obvious cause or purpose.

A person who is insecure lacks confidence in their own value and capability, trust in themselves or others, or has fears that a present positive state is temporary and will let them down and cause them loss or distress by "going wrong" in future.

This is not to be confused with humility, which involves recognising one's failings but still maintaining a healthy dose of self-confidence. Insecurity is not an objective evaluation of one's ability but an emotional interpretation, as two people with the same capabilities may have entirely different levels of insecurity.

Insecurity may cause shyness, paranoia and social withdrawal, or alternatively it may encourage compensatory behaviours such as arrogance, aggression, or bullying, a principle enshrined in the phrase "all bullies are cowards." Many people suffer a period of insecurity during puberty, which gives rise to a lot of the stereotypical behaviours of adolescents.

Insecurity has many effects in a person's life. There are several levels of it. It nearly always causes some degree of isolation as a typically insecure person withdraws themselves to some extent. The greater the insecurity, the higher the degree of isolation. Insecurity is often rooted in a person during their childhood years. Like offense and bitterness, it grows in layer fashion, often becoming an immobilising force that sets a limiting factor in the person's life. Insecurity robs by degrees - the degree it is entrenched is the degree of power it has in the person's life.

As insecurity can be distressing and feel threatening to the psyche, insecurity can often be accompanied by a controlling personality type or avoidance, as psychological defence mechanisms.

Insecurity can be overcome. It takes time and patience and a willingness to believe each person (and specifically oneself) is in fact of innate value.

Answer 3

I THINK YOU ARE OK, i kid around all the time on q&a because of the ludacrit questions asked, i swear some people just aren't nice, like you chris/

Answer 4

You want chris to read your posting yet you are chris and I'm beginning to lose the will to live. What ARE you on about ------

Answer 5

hello ive not read any of your other postings
yeh your kind of good looking just so you know lol
who called you a jerk ?
thats not nice

for the record i dont think your a jerk

Answer 6

you can ask any questions u like without caring about what others may think it doesnt matter if ure insecure or not. everybody goes through some insecurity phases.

Answer 7

Alrighty then. I don't think you're being a jerk, but at the same time, I don't quite know what to think about you.

Answer 8

Hi Chris... no Christy... thats what tickles my fancy. I've never seen any of your other postings. But you are cute.

Answer 9

yes u r nice lookin

Answer 10

i think your fuggly, you have a long skinny head, tiny ears, and buck teeth, we dont wanna look at you