Honesty is always the best policy?

Question

I've heard so many people say this, and I know that most us married people "agree", but I'm curious to what you REALLY think.

Do you think it's never okay to lie to your spouse?

Answer 1

It's both OK, and necessary to lie to your spouse. When your wife asks, "Do you like my haircut?" The answer is "yes." "Does my butt look big?" Answer- "No." If the husband were to ask, "Is sex as good as with your ex?" The answer is "NO!! It's much better". But, these are at worst, white lies. Now, lies meant to harm, or conceal misdeeds, are an entirely different matter. The movitivation for the lie is what matters.

Answer 2

More of this, Are you insane,, women who tell their man the truth, have real short marriages. You must always swear allegiance to the truth, and it's not always necessary to lie, but women have very little patience with telling the whole truth, nothing but the truth, and the men swear to God, it'd better be the truth, but honey don't tell men the truth. Tell them what they need to hear so they don't feel like a cuckold. Don't be mean to the men, they are mean enough to each other. Treat them like the ladies they really are. Just enough of what's going on so as they feel they're involved, and that's enough. Always speak with verascity , keep it short. Become known for always telling the truth, and then when you lie, nobody will believe it, you never lie.

Answer 3

My second marriage has been so much better because we absolutely never lie to each other. Hey, it's good to never have to back track everything you say. My first husband was a big time lyer and I started doing it , too! Lying is for losers and that's what I became all those years hanging out with a dam lyer. Though shall not lie- it don't say just a little bit will be okay.

Answer 4

NO! it's not ok, the truth hurts. But a lie destroys character. It's better to hear from them then some/any other source. The last thing you want is the lost of respect from your spouse.

Answer 5

Really, I think that everyone tells little white lies. Don't you? Like if you ask him if he like the food you cooked, I don't care what anyone says, I would rather they say You did a good job cooking this rather than, No. Lies that can hurt like in cheating ways, No its not ok to lie. Money, not ok.

Answer 6

truth about lieing to your spouse, sooner are later they going to find out, an if you one tha talk in you sleep,lol,,, i say sooner,lol,2th you need to rember the lie you told,an i for one, dont rember that well,,,3 when you lie,it seem to grow as long as it go on, an soon ,you find telling more lie to cover the first one,,,an end the end you got to face the spouse,,, an it be harder to tue the truth, i learn,,,,,women got a mind like a steel trap, an they seem to know when a man lie,,my self if i try to lie to the wife, i got to smile, an she know i lieing,,, so it best to stand up tell the truth an take what going to happen

Answer 7

Yes, honesty is the best policy. Lying is unfair to your spouse at best and at worst, simply puts off handling an issue.

Problems don't get better with age.

Answer 8

dont do anything you have to lie about. one lie will turn into two lies so on and so on. If you feel you need to lie then there is a problem

Answer 9

depends what kind of lie your talking about , little lies are okay sometimes, but i feel like big lies would hurt your communication and in the long run your relationship as well

Answer 10

When you're "forced" to answer, after considering sensisitivities, white lies are sometimes better than the absolute truth.