Everything they taught us as children is lies ?

Question

You know what I'm talking about, the golden rule, be nice to everyone, and all that. It seems that doesn't really work in the real world.

Answer 1

is better to try give them some lies than having all of them turn bad

Answer 2

It's way too simplistic to regard everything we were taught as kids as lies. It's great to question authority and try to find our own answers, but to simply reject everything you've been taught is foolhardy. Many things we learned as kids were ridiculous: like the depiction of the first Thanksgiving... they even rearranged the "food pyramid".

As for things like being honest and the golden rule not working out in the real world... it depends what you call the "real world".
I believe we create our own realities, to a certain extent. If the world that works for you is a cutthroat, dog-eat-dog world where nobody should be trusted, then that is a world you have chosen or learned to live in. It might be time to learn something else.

As the golden rule (which is in many traditions, not only Christianity) implies, treating others as you want to be treated has always worked for me.

Answer 3

I don't see it that way at all, I don't feel like I was taught lies. I'm sorry that you feel like you were lied to, that's unfortunate.

My parents taught us children to love Jesus Christ as he is the only one who can save us. We were taught that if you want anything in this world that you have to work hard to get it, God helps those who help them selves.

We were taught morals and values, treat others as you want to be treated it's a good way to live your life. No lie here! I haven't met any one who wants or even deserves to be treated badly.

I see that the people in this world have become more corrupt, that there is more evil in our world than there has ever been. Growing up I was taught that there is a lot of evil in this world and that there has always been. It sure hasn't gotten any better over all the years that I have been around, and I have been here for 50 years.

I was taught not to ruin my reputation or my own good name as that is your credibility in this world. Without a good reputation and good name you have nothing, no one will trust you. Again, no lie there. So it isn't just others that you respect, you respect you self as well.

You earn your credit rating, don't co-sign for other people's loans, because if they don't pay the loan you will have to pay it. You can go broke having that happen and ruin your credit. Don't pay for things that they want and can not afford. That if you ever do loan money to some one make sure that you can afford to loose it as you will probably never see the money again. That you can not buy friends, if they are your friend then they are your friend and you don't need to buy them things to prove it.

If others don't have credit that's too bad but its not for you to fix or even help them with, you are not a bank. That if you are having a hard time making ends meet with paying your bills, then maybe it's time to get a second job.

And as I said, I'm sorry that you were or felt that you were lied to growing up. I think that if that happens to some one and you find out later how things really are, teach your children those things you missed out on. So that your children will have gotten what you didn't. It will make you feel less angry/cheated in your own life by giving what should have been given to you.

Answer 4

Kind of a vague question because you aren't really saying what you consider as being lies? Are talking about how children are raised from the 1950s or now?

Are you referring to the golden rules? Children should be seen and not heard?

I think that if there was respect on both sides where a child is raised up in a healthy environment and not with one sided view where as children have to respect their elders and not the parents having respect for the children in terms of listening to them and seeing them as individuals then I would have to agree with that. I also believe in discipline but not harsh discipline like I have heard some people use.

Answer 5

Superdude, being nice to people does work. Some people just suck and need your kindness more than others need it. I am a pretty cold-hearted person and work very hard on being nice. When I "act" nicer better and more opportunities present themselves; sadly when I am my "crabby" self one of my bosses at work usually praises me. I actually did an experiment and "acted" supernice to everyone for a year - got a promotion at work and had fewer migraine headaches.

The Golden Rule you are talking about is simple etiquette. Please, thank you, etc., those things ALWAYS apply, whether you are mean or nice. It doesn't matter if I'm making a multi-million $ deal with someone I like or sending someone packing, manners are always present.

Answer 6

STAR question.... extremely important for all of us to understand the implications.

There are stages in our life and these stages dictate the method and content of learning.

Children who have not had enough experience to have maturity to make the right choices at the right time, need to be spoon fed..... at this stage we can not complicate a lesson by bringing in too many variables.... such as saying if this happens you have to tell the truth and if these other circumstances occur, you may need to lie..... such complicated stuff would look like contradictory to them and they won't be able to learn. The less complicated straight lesson is always the ideal.... that is the starting point as well as the ultimate bottom line.... so, we tell them to tell the truth, to be nice to people etc. etc. without complicating these messages through unending caveats.

As they grow and begin to gain experience in the world, they would normally come back to parents with their doubts and it is in those real experience contexts that the parents need to give them the relevant caveats that qualify the ideal.... they would then understand the necessary and limited deviations as no contradiction and meaningful modification.

I would therefore say that children are not fed lies... they are simply informed of the ideals and only when they themselves experience difficulty with the ideal that they can be considered ready to learn the next stage lessons regarding specific situations which force us to deviate. I believe this is a better method of raising them than cluttering their mind with all the realities of the world right at the outset.

Answer 7

Most of the things we are taught as children comes in the form of good advice, information or knowledge.

It is how we use this advice, information and knowledge. How we pass it on to others is just as important.

Wouldn't it be a great world if we were all nice to each other all of the time. We should strive to be though..!

It starts with what children are taught.

Have fun..

Answer 8

Some of us get it confused with being a push over or being a door mat. Being nice is not always the nest way to go if you're being dishonest with yourself and not truly expressing yourself. This may take time to figure out, but I do think that once you have it down, and you know when to draw the line, that you do end up feeling pretty darn good about yourself. The key is to not engage too much in the negative or with negative people.

Answer 9

Lol--u got it--my philosophy is on the same train as Mark Twain--that everything u do for another person is a selfish act. If u are out in the pouring down rain(i.e.) and see a little old lady getting soaked and run to her with ur umbrella --then that is a selfish act. Why? because it makes u feel good or why else do it?

Answer 10

No, they were not lies. It's just that the world we live in nowadays are full of people who does not really care about what is good and fair. People nowadays are more materialistic and have different values, not necessarily better ones than the values then.

Answer 11

Really? What a pitiful life you must have. I haven't had that problem. But, I am a born optimist and believe also in Karma. Or, what goes around always comes around, so if you are going to lie, it will come back to you and if someone does you badly, it will haunt them too.