I have seen many questions about wife swapping or swinging and a lot of people out there say it will end a marriage and all this. Is there anybody out there that is a active swinger or swapper that is very happy in there marriage and have been married for years and are truly happy with your arrangements. also how long have you been swinging or swapping.
2007-03-03 00:45:38 · 10 answers · asked by needingitnow342000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've been swinging for several years now, and yes, we are very, very happy. In fact all our friends who don't know we are swingers say we are the happiest couple they know.
And we are the norm for swingers, not the exception. The reason we can swing successfully is because we are so happy together. He had a great marriage and great sex together before we started swinging, and it has gotten even better since.
Swinging is simply an extension of our great relationship. It's not a replacement for it like many non-swingers would like to believe. Of course, this is their opinion and not fact. Asking non-swingers about their ideas of swinging is like asking someone who is afraid of heights how they feel about sky diving. What do you think the answer is going to be?
Has it ended marriages? Probably, indirectly. These are the people that have used swinging to "fix" their failing relationship to begin with. They think it will "spice-up" their relationship and magically fix all the problems they have already. These are the ones that end-up divorced. But, even without swinging they would have gotten divorced anyway.
For good, accurate, and honest information about swingers and swinging, check-out The Swingers Board. It's a free discussion forum for swingers. You'll get the information straight from those that are thinking about it, are doing it, and have done it.
2007-03-03 10:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been familiar with swingers for about 25 years. I have known some swingers that have been in the lifestyle for 40 years or more. If you just want to scr*w around then you are just scr*wing around. But swinging is a lifestyle. It will destroy a weak marriage but make a strong marriage stronger. The people who are in the lifestyle, and not just scr*wing around, are very happy.
2007-03-03 01:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I used to be in that lifestyle, and that lifestyle is sick and wrong. I thought we had a strong marriage, and it almost destroyed our marriage. I don't buy what was said if you have a strong marriage it will make it stronger, because how does having sex with other people make your marriage stronger?? The swinging lifestyle puts more importance on sex, and not enough on the relationships.
I'm ashamed that I EVER got into that horrible lifestyle. It's wrong, because sex before or outside of marriage is wrong. Sex was created by God to be between a husband & wife in the bonds of marriage.
If I could I would go back and never get started in that crap.
2007-03-03 01:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
We signed up for a site and stayed with it for about 8 months or so..We ended up going on a date with one couple and to a "party" another time..I really have to say we were horny all the time..We were close..We talked..Happy..Now we're raising our family and working our butts off..We did talk to a lot of couples that were perfectly happy and had rules set..Hey, I say go for it if it suits you!
2007-03-03 07:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~K~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do not even think like that, talk, be open, find another way to excite each other. After a prolonged relationship it is only natural to have periods of boredom, but think of what you have not what others might give, that can not replace the love, pain,and all the other experiences that you have together. they are beyond replacement they make you what you have become, unless of course you do not like yourself.
2007-03-03 02:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by sandwichsparrow 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I have never done it, but if you are interested in doing it and your partner is too, then go for it. Just remember to set standards.
2007-03-03 07:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by loulou 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats not nice and if i had a wife no one would touch her
2007-03-03 00:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
If you want to be like that why get married, is beyond me!
2007-03-03 00:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
all swingers/swappers are halfly mentally sickl pervert!!!
2007-03-03 00:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋
very happy, thanks... :D
2007-03-03 00:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋