I'm pretty shy. I've never really been outgoing but now that I have a daughter I have tended to be even more withdrawn. I am 24 I really need to put down my insecurities and talk to people and make some new friends. I've changed alot since having a child and my old friends are not exactly responsible or compatable anymore-not to say I won't talk to them or be their friends.
2007-03-03 00:27:06 · 9 answers · asked by Rachel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm very shy too. But somehow I always tend to make a conversation with someone I don't know when I don't have to. Now trust me this takes time. But here's what I do. I just start asking questions. Like Hi How are you? or What's your name? It's tough but then the converation goes from there. And for me I've become a lot more open since I've done that.
2007-03-03 00:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by The Redheaded Monster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
golden rule: compliments and questions. Introduce yourself to someone with a compliment - that you love their blouse, where did they get it? Something easy and light to break the ice. Then smile, and ask a further light question. People LOVE to talk about themselves, they will rattle on happily for ages answering questions about their opinions and experiences, etc. When they pause for breath, say "wow, that's really interesting, tell me more" and sit back while they continue. At the end of it, they won't remember that you didn't speak much but they will think you're a great conversationalist and will like you a lot!
Actually, good conversation is really all about LISTENING rather than talking. You'll soon have your chance to say something but, in breaking the ice, you want that person to open up to you and get a flow of communication out to you. Smile, look interested, nod a lot quite they're talking as though you're in agreement.
With a bit of practice you'll get a bit more confident and, in time, will be a dab hand at introducing yourself and talking about yourself.
By the way, having a child is one of the best ice-breakers there is. Everyone loves to talk about their kids, you have a ready-made conversation piece there.
Good luck. Head up, deep breath and SMILE !
2007-03-03 09:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I understand you. I'm Virgo and I have the same problem. Luckily I was born in 27th of August and I act like a Lion sometimes. It's easy to make yourself more out-going. Just forget that there's someone else in the room or take him as he is your relative. Soon you'll start joking and laughing and the person who is with you will start liking you. If not, what? You don't even know him! That works with me every time!
2007-03-03 09:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by Jerey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to find a local mothers/parents group. They tend to meet in local parks and such. It could be a good connection and a good resource. It could also be a good way to start conversation - talking about your kids and exchanging stories.
2007-03-03 17:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by anyareed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something interesting to talk about with people or join a club of some discription. Be more Pro-active in your life .x.
2007-03-03 08:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by Chris W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try finding people with the same interests as you by going to mother and toddler groups etc. there is thousands of people in the same boat as you...hope everything turns out well
2007-03-03 08:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥~shona~♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do is smile and compliment someone... people are total suckers for a little ego stroking
2007-03-03 08:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by Jerrica Starlight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say hello and smile...they will talk to you!
2007-03-03 08:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by doingitallforwrenches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try saying "Hello."
2007-03-03 10:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by maureen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋