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Well, being piggy in the middle seems to be my lot, my niece who I am very close to has asked to come and live with me and the Mrs, I love my neice and have a sister/uncle relationship which has passed onto my wife who also gets on with her in a similar auntie/sister realationship but I also love my sister and she is very happy at the moment. To be honest I don't like the Guy either.
What do you think the answer is

2007-03-02 23:41:47 · 9 answers · asked by Redmonk 6 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

My neices father died when she was 5 years of age.

2007-03-03 21:40:27 · update #1

9 answers

Fifteen is a very complicated age where you think the world revolves only around you, and other people's needs are second to your own. Teenagers are inherently very selfish and don't see other people's desires and ambitions. So your niece's reaction could be just her hose being put out of joint - why is my mum not spending as much time with me? Why isn't my mum putting me first? Stuff like that.
Your sister obviously sees attractions in this man - I don't know what her history is but if this chap isn't obviously a wife-beater, gambler, drunk or bigamist then I would be inclined to smile and let your sister find her happiness. She obviously has her daughter's interests at heart and may even have a conflict between her own desires and those of her daughter's - but that's for her to sort out. Meanwhile, be neutral, don't take sides. Tell your niece that everyone deserves to find happiness where they can and neither agree or disagree with her opinion. She's entitled to her own opinion, as you are - but unless you have a reason to find a real objection to this guy, keep your nose out of it.
Remember, your niece will grow up and start dating guys that your sister and you probably won't like - and your neice won't thank you for objecting to her choice!

2007-03-03 01:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1 0

Not liking the guy is not good enough for a reason, especially if he seems to be making your sister happy and nothing indicates he could be a bad influence. A nice sister/uncle relationship is not a parental relationship, which takes much more than that. You should talk to your sister and help her, as your niece is at an age to push limits and thus juggling between households so that she can get things her way is not how it should work. Act in the best interest of your family rather than to keep being the uncle your niece likes.

2007-03-03 00:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by tense 3 · 0 0

Your sister won't thank you for interfering in her life. Whoever she goes out with will not meet with approval from your 15 year old niece - they don't like anyone taking the place of their dad or having a piece of their mother's affections. It is irrelevant that you don't like the guy - your sister does and it is her life. I would not under any circumstances take your niece in, plus the relationship with this guy might fizzle out anyway and it would all be a dramatic fuss for nothing.

2007-03-03 00:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think it would be best to make your neice stay where she is.
Your sister might not like the interference & it could spoil your relationship with her.
If your sister is happy then you will all just have to support her & each other. Do not let her know you all dislike her choice of partner either. Just be there for her & your neice.

2007-03-02 23:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 1 0

The answer is to stay out of it. Your sisters relationship doesn't have much to do with you or your niece. If your sister or your niece ask you about it then say that you disaprove and leave it at that. Don't let either of them persuade you to start mud slinging.

2007-03-02 23:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 5 · 1 0

Wouldn't the world be simpler if people sorted out their lives before they had children??? Sorry, but in my opinion, kids come first. I think your sister needs to know how her daughter feels and if she won't accept it, then perhaps her family would help out by allowing the daughter to live with them.
Where is the father??????

2007-03-03 00:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0 1

If both your sister and your wife are willing to let her come and live with you, then let her move in.

2007-03-02 23:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0 0

I do not know - she can try yet again with the man, go to a boarding school, go live with some other relatives.

2007-03-02 23:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I think you should let her be with who she wants.

2007-03-02 23:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by bigpapaduffmets 2 · 0 1

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