why my 2 years old baby doesn't listen to me when i ask her to do or not to do something?

Question

sometimes i feel she is the smartest girl ever, and other times i feel that she doesnt understand a word,, she is my first and only baby and i want her to be the best..I know some babies her age and they speak much better than she does,, she can say just words no sentences yet,, when i ask her to stop making a mess when she plays , she just doesnt listen ,, i try to feed her and she wont let me , she wants to feed herself and try to imagine the mess she can make...i want to know is this normal or am i doing something wrong.. she is only 2 and u will be shocked to know that she can READ letters and some numbers..and she is already potty traind.. thats why first thing i said that sometimes i feel she is the smartest,,,,,
thanks

Answer 1

She is just being a 2 year old. Don't worry your not alone, I'm going through the same thing with my 2 year old.

Answer 2

Two year olds are learning to be independant of their mothers. Her behavior is absolutely normal. She sounds like a bright child. Let her feed herself, she will make a mess of herself and the kitchen, but she is learning valuable skills. Let her have some control over her world, when it is appropriate. When she is truely misbehaving (and choose your battles carefully) you should pick her up and put her in time out for a minute or two, just until she understands that you want her to stop what she is doing. And love her lots.

Answer 3

Babies and toddlers learn by HANDS ON activities, and she wants to be independent with certain things, such as eating. The more you let her practice eating on her own, the better she gets at it, the less mess. (my son is 16 mo. and feeds himself, and hardly makes any mess now,plus you CAN feed her less messy food). Also, there is not a kid in the world that at the age of 2 is not going to make a mess when they play! Are you telling her to be "neat" so you can be lazy and not have to clean up after her? She is busy all day learning how things work, and go together, she doesn't have time to stop and think "oh. mom doesn't want to clean that up. i better do it" she IS only 2 after all! As for the talking... babies learn to talk BY HEARING! Talk to her more as if she does understand everything and DON'T GET MAD when she doesn't respond how you want her to. She is still listening to how you form the sentences and what words to put together. If you only say few things directing her to do this and that all day, of course she isn't going to learn! The kids that can talk already were talked to alot as babies. my son again is only 16 months and can say a few words in english AND in spanish because we talk to him all day. WORK WITH HER, LOVE HER, AND STOP SCOLDING HER!

Babies are messy, you are her mother, let her live and learn and stop being lazy and just clean up after her. you want her to be the best? let her focus on being the best instead of your yelling.

Answer 4

If she is the smartest, then you need to let her learn to feed herself as making a mess isn't reason enough to not let her do it. She should be allowed to feed herself. Maybe you are constantly correcting her so much she is tuning you out so she doesn't have you continually after her about things. You should take a calmer approach and just let her be a little girl.

Answer 5

I got a lil boy that just turned 2 and it sounds like we are in the same boat but mine isn't potty trained. He is just about as smart as your lil girl but doesn't talk much. My lil boy likes to do things on his own. Mainly when it comes to making a mess. But I give him some tough love to show him when he is doing wrong and he seems to be getting better. Either way, like the song goes... "Let them be little". She won't be little forever. Let her make a mess every now and then but make her help clean it up to show her what is right. She may get mad at you but another thing you can do is turn clean up into a game like I do with my lil boy. I will pick up something first and put it into the toybox then jump and laugh like I'm having fun. Then he will pick something up and I clap for him and before we know it the toy room is clean.
But as long as you have tender love and tough love then you and your girl will be just fine.

Answer 6

well for a smar mom like ou are congratulations on having a smart baby. the words that you say to her may not mean the same as the words mean to you. So, it is quite normal and it happens to almost 95% cases. I guess you need to understand how to communicate with her. You need to understand her understanding to pass your instructions. As you said she can read and go through numbers that means that her brain is sharp enough to process datas so if you are interested in making her suited with your instructions as well, it is you who needs to practice empathy with her and understand first what does she understands by what. Once you have understood that you are already in a state of communicating with her. Most of the time body language and sign languages works better and effectively than words. So, try and let me know the progress. By the which country are you from?
Cause cultural difference is a big factor too in case of making an effective suggestion for you.

Answer 7

let her feed herself...the mess is temporary
the language question probably needs to be asked of a doctor and maybe have her hearing checked...my baby was not following simple directions and found out she has significant hearing loss so she just did not hear the directions and had trouble with sounds and repeating words

Answer 8

Kids this age will only do things they want to. My son also seems to not understand me at times, i even thought he might have hearing problems but after his three year check up i was told he hears perfectly fine. Then we though he was colorblind because he was the only three year old who did not know one color then one day he just started naming them all. he just never felt like doing it before. and like your daughter he is VERY smart. dont worry about her, she is just being a two year old.

Answer 9

Just FYI....your 2 year old is TWO YEARS OLD. She is not going to act like an adult. Shocking, isn't it?

Answer 10

making a mess is fun and learning to eat on her own is new challenge her do these she is ready