He doesn't work due to disabilities, however he goes for a drink once a week with his son from his first marriage. This outing seems to take so much planning and pannicking and flapping it's unreal, he spends all fri night on the phone making arrangements. I know hes not up to anything as he is taking our little boy with him. He almost ignores me as he is talking so much on the phone. what can I do/
2007-03-02 22:42:20 · 17 answers · asked by The Way 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
since he has taken care of this outin for so long.. y don u give him a surprize n plan out the whole thing... jus the way he likes... this will relieve him from the tension and also be with... join him.. its only a drink na... and don worry bout him being a child.. everyone has a child in themselves.. jus that this child's behaviour is giving u negative vibes...
2007-03-02 22:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by priyanka77_bhatia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may have some real anxiety issues. That's not childish. Maybe he should talk to someone about it before it gets worse.
As for him ignoring you because he's talking so much on the phone, use that time for yourself. Read a book. Take a bath. Go out for drinks with some friends. Whatever.
2007-03-03 06:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down an have a heart to heart talk with him. use "I" statements, an gently, unacusingly tell him how u feel. perhaps he is over scrutionizing on the plans becuase he is depressed about the rest of his life, as u say he is disabled, he may feel he has little cotrol over his situation, ask him about how he is feeling and if he has anything he wants to get off his chest, cuz ur there for him.
he shud involve u if u feel left out, an if he loves u, he wudnt knowingly do something that he knew wud hurt u...⥠if talking doesnt seem to werk, then try to go to counsiling together, if that doesnt werk, go to cousuling urself, it will help u, an help u to stratigize how to repair the situation, *smile* gud luck, i hope i helped â¥
2007-03-03 09:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of feeling jealous that he's going out for a night's enjoyment with his sons, how about you take a night out with your friends, or an evening class. My husband is disabled, and I would just LOVE it, if he'de go out anywhere.
2007-03-03 06:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's something amazing. How about you stop asking strangers on the internet what you should do and sit down with your husband whom you have a relationship with and love and talk about your concerns and what you can do to get a compromise settled?
2007-03-03 07:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly how u feel abt it,i dont think he means to hurt ur feelings,just doesnt realise it bothers u.say it nicely and he will understand,and maybe u could make the arrangements for him next time,or help out with it somehow.
2007-03-03 06:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by traces 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find something to occupy your time on Friday evening. And enjoy the time away from family and responsibility with the girls. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-03 06:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you think the phrase 'Men are big babies' came from?
Decide how you would handle the situation if your little boy was the culprit and apply it to your husband!
Good Luck!
2007-03-03 06:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by Pabs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go out on Friday night yourself. To some other place than his.
2007-03-03 06:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get a job answering phones.
2007-03-03 07:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋