my self-esteem most of the time is kinda like 6ft. under.. i get these annoying feelings.. that when i talk to this person he might find me boring and stuff like that.. or when i talk about this guy my friends myt think im a total obsessed weirdo always talking about him (most r about him liking someone else, and i get sad)
i just want to be normal, and not think what other may think about me.. but i dont know how..
they're all negative, and sometimes i think im ugly and guys only like pretty girls, i sometimes wish i can be one of them, those pretty girls.. my friends say, i have a nice personality.. some guys actually liked me.. but admire not crush.. i think admire is the closest thing i can get to crush.. dont get me wrong im grateful that alteast some actually liked me.. but i dont know.. hehe
2007-03-02 22:11:58 · 8 answers · asked by moose_uncanny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You know ...you are a breath of fresh air. I mean , you have just made me see that there is still some normalsy still in this world. Sweety let me tell you that i know just by reading your question that you are one that will have the world by the ...u know whats. I am 42 yrs old and never have i really grown up , untill now.But im facing the same feelings as you now. because , i guess i didnt back then. Then being in my teens and so on. I had the world by the ...yep! So i thought, but as i was so busy thinking how awsome i was, and who i could empress and how, i lost out on something big.REAL BIG. I never took the time to see others for what beutiful people they are. The soul! the part of a person that makes us what we are. Im saying to you that if you don't see a whole lotta love from peirs, it's because you have somehow become above the notion that you need to even be part of THE GAME that most play at younger ages. I played the silly *** game and ended up in the penatentery for following a game that became a lifestyle. To see that you are having self esteem issues , only tells one thing . that you have lifes best kept secret already figured out. You feel stronger need for love than do PLAYERS, and this sweetheart will bring in time the perfect soul mate, and TRUE love. hang out , watch them all make idiots of themselves, then when all of your friends and people you know are older, watch how they seem to come to you for leadership, answers , and so on. think of this.......I am 7'5 inches tall and 295 pounds. If you picture in your mind Me standing behind you , smiling with you because of how small the little shitheads are, and laughing at them while kicking it on the beach later with umbrella drinks in our hands,then you can see you just how you should see you!! Make any sence? i hope so, cause you have help me THANKS .!! Much love sis.
2007-03-02 22:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by rick s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to think about what is pretty about you , your personality and good qualities you have as a person. I have seen really nice looking girls who are ugly inside. you can not compare your self to other girls. because there will always be more prettier ones. try enjoying the beauty around you, and think about the beauty in your self. write down some of the good things your friends ay and focus on them to push out the negative thoughts you may get.
2007-03-03 06:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by siayae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has those feelings. some more than others, but unfortunatly thats life. Nobody is NORMAL. I am a lot like you. People tell me that in order for people to see your beauty you have to let them and when people look at me they see a girl with no self confidence who is insecure. sometimes its about how you project yourself. my mum used to tell me that if you smile you will feel happy. and sometimes its true....sometimes you end up smiling like a freak to noone and get odd looks. lol. i suggest you try talking to someone, like a therapist or friend or counselor. i know where your at but believe me when i say, no one is going to be able to change this but you. if you want to change how people see you, only you can change how you put yourself out there. NEVER change who you are....only change how you present yourself (body image, socail tendencies ect.). good luck.
2007-03-03 06:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Pictsy♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to think that way, its all in the outlook in life, if you cater for negative energy itll just go back to you. You should have apositive perspective in life, think your special and your opinion count! Dwell on good things and not on the things that can bring you down! Take one step at a time, you cannot change overnight.
2007-03-03 06:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by konfuzed_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself Does he likes ya??? If you think that he thinks you are boreing Dont listen to him...he might jelous from you..if he ignors you .... than you do the same ...A person doesnt appreciate gifts only when it is not there..... Be happy life is too short to live it twice....Good Luck!
2007-03-03 06:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Hood-Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of the millions of people in the world who don't know you, can't see you and could never judge you, then go ahead and do your own thing!
2007-03-03 06:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by vzhnri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have confidence.. All will fall into lace.. oops, place.
What I really wanted to say was who doesn't have problems?!
BUCK UP
2007-03-03 06:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by inthrutheoutdoor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself, if he doesn't like you for you there isn't much you can do about it
2007-03-03 06:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by trysssa999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋