well i am going to get married to this boy who i love a lot.but he says that he does not love or like me, he does not talk to me,he does not respond to my messages, he comes to my place but talks to everyone else other then me. i dont know how to find if he really love me or our marriage will be a success i cant back off from this marriage.i dont know how to find what is on his mind neither will he talk to me. how d i know if he like me so that i can positively go ahead with the wedding,he wants time and i am giving him the time and space, will this solve the problem. i want to do it for him cause he is a very nice person very helpful and understanding but when it comes to me the understanding ,help, love everything gets over.is it that i am just assuming it or what.please help me
2007-03-02 21:34:26 · 8 answers · asked by eme7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first requirement of a marriage is mutual love and respect you have not got even the basics of this trust your own thoughts and give the whole thing a miss if he is only into some testing of you or whatever it will soon show up, if you tell him you want out .
2007-03-02 21:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do not marry someone when your not in love so why does this person want to marry you? You will not be able to have enough love for both of you, therefore you will probably be miserable, also you have to have communication in marriage, you do not even have any before marriage so how on earth are you going to get along. Tell him ( if I were you) that the marriage is over you do not think it will work, see what his reaction is he may object or he may agree with you, at least you would have been the one to make this wise decision.
2007-03-02 21:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marry this person and you will live to regret it! HOW can you marry someone who does not love or like you!
You CAN cancel the marriage and you should. Cancelling the wedding will cause far less pain than an unhappy marriage followed by a horrible divorce.
Getting married NEVER cures relationship problems.
Best wishes
2007-03-02 21:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful about getting married to someone that won't even give you the time of day. If he is not ready then don't do it. Find someone that is more suited to you and your needs. If this is an arranged marriage, then talk to your parents about your concerns and get them to find you someone else. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-02 22:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made this up ...right. He is just stringing you along for the nookie. You are both illresponsible . This makes no sense at all. He is marrying you, but doesn't love you. Yet, you are willing to wed him. This should quailify for the Jerry Springer Show.
2007-03-02 22:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you he does not love you he doesn't even like you wake up or be miserable for the rest of your life. Silly girl I hope your joking about this. He will only get worse
2007-03-02 21:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by deb m 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if he is telling u this, u will never be happy with him. time won't solve this problem not at all. marriage is not going to make him love u if he doesn't love u now.
2007-03-02 22:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just corner him whenever he is alone and ask him about u.
2007-03-02 21:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by princess_me_dream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋