how would you cope with being a mistress? how do you no he would be telling you the truth? i dont think would cope with him sleeping with his wife and me
2007-03-02 20:23:39 · 12 answers · asked by purdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think a person who knows she would become or is a mistress has a very bad sense of self. First of all, this fellow who you'd be fooling around with is a cheat and liar, if he does it to his wife...you for sure would be on that end of things eventually...you can't trust him! Secondly, why would you even consider being a contributing factor to the break up of a marriage and/or family. That is very low. Finally, don't you think you deserve a lot better than this?
2007-03-02 20:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mangomum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a mistress is there for one reason and one reason alone.....sex.
rarely will a bloke leave his wife for a mistress and truth will be the last thing out of his mouth.
if a woman feels she can cope with the obvious emotional problems then the relationship can work but i would advise against it.
i am male, had affairs in the past, not a good idea. learnt by my mistakes.
2007-03-02 20:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by safcian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I could deal with being a mistress. Of course I wouldn't trust fully since he's proving that he can't be trusted by cheating. As far as sleeping with wife too, well, one wouldn't be much of a mistress if he didn't fool around with both :)
2007-03-02 20:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by ~Anna~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love the man then you would have to accept that you have fallen for someone who is taken. his wife and children will always be important to him irrespective whatever he would tell his mistress.Also he would only really be alive whilst in the mistresses arms as that would be the real excitment away from the routine, coping with him sleeping with both would be very hard but again it would depend how deep your love for him was.
2007-03-06 19:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by pilgrim_conrad_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was a girl, I would not cope with being a mistress unless I was a mistress for hire. If you have any pride in yourself, you should not be a mistress.
2007-03-02 20:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by Bud#21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do know the woman who broke up my marriage did not cope she gave ultimatums, she made sure she kept him close, and even when he did call, sometimes he acted like the same old guy, until she caught him on the phone and his whole demeanor changed on me just like that. he called talking to me in a nice way but one could tell when she entered the room he would begin to talk mean to me again, and demand a divorce from me, threaten me with lawyers if i did not move toward divorce. don't think today's Mistresses cope, think they give ultimatums, and their goal is to get him to divorce his wife, before he can see reason or think about what is going on.
2007-03-02 21:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mistress should not exist. You have no right to feel any jealousy or any emotion. What you are doing is disgraceful. You should tell this MAN that you will not see him at all until he explains EVERYTHING to his wife. Only then will you have some rights.
Sorry to be so blunt, but I hate affairs.
2007-03-02 20:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
qould never be a mistress my father had one and it tore my family apart and has a serious effect on how i view things, while i dnt lay the blame at the mistresses feet i feel that a lot of them turn a blind eye to the pain they are causing, ref to beliving what the man says my father told his mistress for 4 years he would leave my mum when my mum eventually left him he kept sniffing around for another year till she told him to **** off
2007-03-06 10:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by kaye j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, why on earth would you want to be responsible for wrecking someone else's marriage for a start, does he have children? If he does, that makes it worse, think of all the lives you'll wreck. He's never going to leave his wife for you, he wants to have his cake and eat it, meaning he has a happy marital home and when his wife doesn't want sex, he has someone to go to who'll give it to him. Please have some self respect for yourself. I couldn't cope being a mistress, mainly due to the stress and the pain of knowing he'll never be mine.
2007-03-02 20:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by Minniex 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not 'cope' cos I would definitley put myself into
that situation.
There has got to be a point where you know you are doing wrong.
A mistress is only for sex. I know if I were one and he left his wife for me, I would be waiting for the day to come that he would
do the same to me.
What goes round - comes round (I hope).
2007-03-02 22:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋