stopped wife from seeing the kids because of her affair?

Question

have stopped wife from seeing are children will this hurt her(have said she can see them on sundays at my house but she dosnt turn up)is she angry with me?

look i ve told her she can see them only on sundays at my home between 2 and 4 on sundays but she dosnt turn up so i have given her the chance to see them but like i said she dosnt turn up

i have a prohibited steps order stopping her from taking them from me so why shouldnt i have some security by keeping my eyes on my kids

Answer 1

You have got to get sole custody and quick because the law is always in the mother's favour. I don't know what she's capable of but it only takes a minute for her to decide she's going to come back it could up with her kicking you out. But if she is not playing by your rules by visiting on Sunday then that's her fault not yours. Don't let her call all the shots or you could end up worse off. Good luck, it will be uphill but there is light at the end of the tunnel. I disagree with the above answers because they don't seem to take in the fact that it's your wife NOT visiting on Sunday and not you stopping her.

Answer 2

you have to think about the children here. You are using them to get back at your wife however they still need their mother in their lives. Can you not arrange with her to meet at mutual ground say a pub or something, you should take the children and take a friend that way you can still watch her with the children and the children wouldnt feel so awkward sensing the tension between the two of you. Have a word with your wife first to tell her that if she tries to brainwash the children on her visit then she will have blown her chances, good luck.

Answer 3

hi there .....well if she isnt i am !!!!!!so this has blowen up because she had a affair ....ok that wasnt the best idea that she had .......and it did cause you and the kids a lot of pain .....but now that she is no longer with her kids .......and im leaving her out of this bit at the moment ........have you stopped to think how the kids are felling ......oh i bet you have rubbed her nose in it good and proper ... and at every chance you getyou will do this that fine if that is how you want to treat the mother of youre children .......but those kids had a home with there mum and dad in it and ok younever had the affair but you are now using youre own kids to get back at there mother........the kids never wanted any of this to happen but between you to they are being played like a game of chess ........and that is more cruel then you can imagine .....ive seen this so many times and these kids end up messed up for years ......heres a idea how about you and this woman that you must have loved at some point ......to sit down and try and work this out if not for youreselfs but at least for the kids that way you are teaching youre kids that yes relationships can go a bit wrong but if you sit down and deal with it ......the hurt can be sorted ........and you never know youre kids will thankyou at the end of the day as there will be less hurt all round .......good luck and take care xx

Answer 4

Have you settled this custody case in the courts yet? If not then why not? If she had an affair and you want a divorce then get one.
Also, it is stupid,stupid, stupid to take your hatred of your wife out on your kids. Do you think they hate her? Do you think THEY are better off for not getting to see her? There isn't a court in the country, that I know of anyway, that will cut off visitation for her just because she had an affair--which may explain why you haven't seen a lawyer yet.
My daughter tried to pull this with her husband until I put a stop to the stupidity by demanding that she let my granddaughter have a relationship with her father (that is if she wanted to continue living with me). My granddaughter is SO much better off because she can see her dad without hassle or having to choose between the two of them. He had an affair too but, just because he had an affair, doesn't mean that they can't have a good and important (for her) relationship together.
Stop thinking only of yourself and start thinking of your kids. Their welfare is more important than your temporary hurt feelings and pride.
(If you think that she will run off with them then it's even more important that you see a lawyer otherwise there is no legal reason why she can't take them.)

Answer 5

Although you are angry about the affair, she has every legal right to see her own children, and it is exceedingly selfish and damaging to all for you to do that. Legally, you cannot stop her; she has as much right to the kids and all the property as you do. I would be very angry with you if I were her; she probably does not show because of how stressful and upsetting it is for her *and the children* to go to the house under your imposed rules. That is unnecessarily cruel and it is humiliating. The children need to see their mother; clearly there were problems between you two, but do not punish her and the kids because you are angry and hurt. Please!! Cut a little slack and talk to her. Best to you.

Answer 6

You don't have the right to stop her from seeing them. If you want to hurt her, do it on your own - don't use the children as pawns in your little mindgames.

You are obviously NOT dealing very well with your break-up. You need help, and looking at your other questions, I wonder if you're the best person for your children to be with at the moment.

Get yourself some counselling, as fast as you can. Look at things from your children's point of view. They need their mother, and don't need your control issues getting in the way.

Be mature - marriages fail. It's sad but a fact. You need to deal with the fact that your marriage has now failed and start to move on. Agree a plan with your ex-wife. Arrange for her to have the kids for a reasonable amount of time. Nothing in your questions so far indicates that she has ever put the children at risk in any way with her behaviour, so there's no need for supervised visitation.

Get yourself some help. Get out of the house and start building a life for yourself.
Good luck.

Answer 7

i'm so sorry i understand what it feels opt for to be betrayed via the very man or woman you would not in any respect imagine would damage you. Yours is a double betrayal how do you compete with a lady ? Cheaters should be made to pay for each and each of the damage and discomfort they reason. possibly a month in reformatory will cause them to conscious of their habit i don't understand what is going to be performed yet something might want to.your toddlers might want to no longer be round such habit and shame on her for appearing so egocentric. You my buddy must have thrown her a s s out. The regulation is on your part and also you need to search for an lawyer once achieveable.

Answer 8

whatever a wife/husband has done, it was not the fault of the children.
sounds to me as if there is hurt and pain on both sides, if she does not turn up to see the children then that is not your fault, but personally i would advise you to talk to her and arrange a suitable time for visits.
the children need to see both parents and know they are still loved and cared for, sorry to say this but the parents feelings need to be the last ones considered, the children are most important here.

Answer 9

Your kids should not have to suffer because of your wife’s infidelities. I’m sure your children still want and need that mother figure in their lives. As hard as it may be to be near your wife, you need to endure it for the kids because at the end of the day your kids are being deprived of a mother.

Answer 10

You are a JERK!!!!! No wonder she left you for someone else. JEEEZ!!! If all the MEN, who had affairs were prevented from seeing their children, then no children would ever have visits with their dads. Why wouldn't she be angry with You. YOU are using her kids as pawns to get even with her. I hope that when your kids grow up they see you for what you are. GET HELP. And in the meantime, let the kids go back to their mother. She's obviously the more stable one.