hay right well to be stright im pregnant and the dad is my cousins best mate and my other cousins on-off bf! and to make matters worse im only 14 and hes 19!!!!!! all i rember from the night is him saying 'come on princess amy get you back home but frst,get you some air.' and then walking home i also rember him saying 'can i ask you somthing......' then my mind went blank and the next thing i rember is im at my cousin and his appartment waking up the next day totaly naked! (in his bed so you and i can guess what went on)!!!!!!!!!!!! but i no that night id had alot to drink, i dont usually drink but i did this night for some strange reasion!!!!!!! and now im pregnant @ 14 and need help!!!! i have told a different cousin and he said that what ever i want to do he'll help me as much as posiple!!!!!!!! please help me!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 19:51:53 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i was staying wid my cousion robz in london!!!! my mum and dad was @home!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 20:08:02 · update #1
wow...
Okay, first of all it's not your fault that you're pregnant. Second, if you hate for what he did to you, you can report him to the police, that way he can spend about 5 yrs in jail. Depends on what state you live though I think.
Listen to that cousin who wants to help, you need someone like that.
And you're not dead, people make mistakes in there life, most of us make major mistakes.
But through mistakes we learn, in this case, I hope you learn not to get drunk like that again.
Usually on Yahoo! Answers, I don't feel sorry for people, I just say something stupid. But somehow I really feel sorry for you...
Ask yourself first though, do you have the heart to abort a child? Or would you set the baby up for adoption? Maybe raise him/her yourself? This takes time to think, and only you can make that choice.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-02 19:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 11⤊ 1⤋
Amz, you have brought on a lot of people to answer your call for help. I doubt you are 'dead", but the outrage from your parents is something that you will have to endure. I would have the "father" charged with rape. He should have known better, and as an inexperienced girl, he should have taken you home as opposed to what he did. That was despicable and in no way the action of a man. He raped you and should bear the responsibility of his crime. If anyone in your family doesn't like that, to bad. Stand up for yourself, forgive yourself, and press the point of rape. A 14 year old is to young for any man, at least in our time, to take and have sex with. So far as getting yourself sloshed at 14, I hope you never do that again.
I would hope that you will let the young life forming inside you live. Please do not abort it. Besides taking that life, abortions can go seriously wrong, and kill you as well. While in your current emotional state, that might appear to be a welcome outcome, but it isn't. Your life is important, and through this you just might help someone else to not do the same thing. Let the child live, and give it up for adoption. Is that going to be a burden for you, yes, it might be. You need your teen years without a baby weighing down this time of your life. Being a mother will come again soon enough, be a teenager now and grow up to be the beautiful woman that you can be. The emotional scarring of an abortion is also something to be avoided.
The Joker has also given very good advice.
2007-03-03 04:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have choices and none of them are easy. You must think and you must think hard, each choice has a consequence and you have to work out which one you can live with.
1. Keep the baby. You must know the consequence of that, you will be a mother and that is no easy job, you have feed, clothe, guide, educate, and be responsible for the baby.
2. Have an abortion. The consequence is, can you live your life knowing that you have had an abortion (not sure of your stance on the issue)
3. Adopt the baby. This is tough, you have to carry the baby and give birth then allow someone else to raise the child. these days you can have an open adoption (if you like) and still have contact, visitation rights etc;
This is a very hard decision, but as a single mother I can tell you that it is not easy, I'm not saying that I would change anything, but I'm a lot older than you and I have completed my education and have a good job.
hope this helps
2007-03-03 04:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 9⤊ 0⤋
WOW hun Im sorry you are going through this.That sux .I was a teen mom and it is one of the hardest things you will ever do .Have you told the dad? I hope so, hopefully he has a lil bit of brains,
I think you should tell your parents and let them know slowly and be gentle But first thing you need to do is make SURE you are really pregnant before you tell them like a blood test or a pregnancy center.
Please think of all of your choices you have there are plenty of AWESOME ppl who will pay for everything for you and then give your baby a loving home and a family IF that is what you decide to do . I pray for you and your baby and your parents. Please make sure that what you decide to do is right in your heart and know that what your decision is you will not be able to go back .
This will be a lifetime of either commitment or a lifetime of wonderinf what ifs and or how is he/she doing ect you know what I mean. Good Luck hun Now is the perfect time to pray .I wish you the best
BTW if htis is a realy story please feel free to e mal me
2007-03-03 04:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by mom 2 a queen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you gone to a Dr to have a pregnancy test? tell your parents they will help you decide what to do about the baby. You need to see the Dr every month if you are pregnant. This might be considered a rape because you were intoxicated and you age. If it happened at your cousins he should have been watching over you to protect you from this guy. If you don't remember you may have been drugged. this guy took advantage of you he is also responsible for helping to support the baby if you decide to have it. Look up your local planned parenthood they can help you out if you haven't had a pregnancy test or need a dr.
2007-03-03 04:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by bubbles 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Since you use the term mate, I'm guessing you re from Australia. I'm not sure what the legalities are there, but in America when an underage girl (like you) has sex with a legal adult (over 18) even if it's consentual, it's statutory rape. The fact that alcohol was supplied to you (again a crime) until you were unable to make rational decisions, and the fact that he had sex with you while unconscious is actual rape.
So- Concluding your cousin is in fact a scummy rapist, tell your parents, call the police, and have him arrested a the piece of slime he is. Good luck.
2007-03-03 04:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by JimsShip 4 · 10⤊ 0⤋
ABORT THE MISSION! ABORT THE MISSION!
(get your *** back into school, either give up the child for adoption, or abort it... if you have this baby and keep it... YOUR LIFE AS A CHILD AND THE VERY LITTLE TIME YOU'VE SPENT AS A TEEN... IS OVER)
you also need to let your dad or mom or SOMEONE know who it was and how old they were, so rape charges can be be filed.
2007-03-03 06:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by eFn2113 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not gonna say everything is gonna be ok. However I was 14 when I got pregnant. My son is now 10 we were best friends growing up. I didn't believe in aborting him like people said because it wasn't his fault I got pregnant you know. I am older know and I support being married before getting pregnant. So like I said your gonna have a lot of ruff times but hang in there you will get thru it. I did. My son is great I raised him alone well my mom and dad helped me even though they were mad and I found my husband when he was 3 he adopted him. I couldn't even think of life without him. However his bio daddy was 22 I was 14 at the time I thought it was cool but when I turned 22 looking at a 14 year old was like looking at a baby and YUCK. Even though you think you like these guys at these ages it is Rape and my sons bio dad got 3rd degree rape and I didn't even press charges the state did. I do want to say abortion isn't the way out. your baby has a heartbeat already...... a head .......arm buds......leg buds..... if you don't want it there are plenty of women out there who can't have babies that would love to adopt one. Don't put getting in trouble from mom and dad in front of your babies life.........
2007-03-03 04:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by SIMSGIRL 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Well if you think your already dead, take some people with you....like the sh*thead who RAPED you! That what happened here and that should be something your focusing on too....report him - tell your mum or dad or a councillor at school, but dont let him get away with this!
You need to also see a doctor asap if you didnt and did a home pregnancy test and make sure that getting pregnant was the worst thing that you "caught" that night....
2007-03-03 03:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by karma_au_1984 3 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you need help! Go to an adult to get help with this. I doubt this stuff is true, but If I'm wrong, then please go to a clinic and get some help. There are hotlines in the phone book for this sort of thing.
How can you be 14 and away from home overnight? My parents would always want me home when I was so young!!
2007-03-03 04:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Just me. 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋