Howcome not all disable people are like my friend?

Question

I have a friend who is mute. In high school he was probably one of the nicest guy with a great bright.

However it has been a while since I last saw him. We start talk again not long ago after five years since high school. He seems to be more cold, cruel and cunning. It seems like nothing he did isn't without a serious purpose behind it.

He's reallly convince people doesn't like him because he's mute. He always think if girl is interest enough in him to go out with him, it's just to use him or have a boyfriend until they find someone who isn't mute then dump him.

I know he wasn't treated well in high school, he was basically ignored by everyone. Girls also made fun of him if he try to ask them out.

I don't understand why he turn out this way? Why didn't other disabled people turn out like him?

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Answer 1

I had a friend who was blind and he was the nicest guy I've ever met. He never felt any less than anyone because of his condition. In fact, he took advantage of it and became one of the best sax players in Mexico City (we're from there). He used to tell me that a lot of disable people use that to hide from the real problem. I don't think the problem with your friend is that he is mute, I think he may be using that to go the easy way. It is way easier to be mean and cruel to people than a nice person. If you really care for your friend talk to him and make him see the advantages of being himself, we all have something different, that's what makes us unique. Maybe hi is still discovering this and that's why it's difficult. My friend taught me that blind people (at least him) develop the sensations greater than regular people. Whenever I am doing something difficult, I close my eyes, that gives me more patience and I concentrate more in what I'm doing and I do it faster. I also enjoy more the smell of everything if I close my eyes. Your friend can also find a lot of advantages of being mute, it just takes understanding from him and realizing he is that way for a reason in particular. We all are here to accomplish a mission with our lives and God gives us whatever we need to do it. My friend left behind a great story, (he died 3 years ago) he understood who he was and that being blind was part of him, he gave the best of himself to music and most important, he taught me that no matter what your condition is, there's nothing on this planet that can stop you if you really want something.

Answer 2

You are trying to put a whole group of people into a nice little box/category and it doesn't work that way. Your friend sounds like he has grown cold due to the way he has been treated by people. My wife and I are both disabled and have been through a lot with Doctors, family members and friends since our problems with our heath began. You really find out who your true friends are when you lose your health and go through a big life change like that. We try our best to be understanding of people and ignore any rude comments, but it is hard to take sometimes. Be a good friend to him...he needs a friend to trust right now.