I'm 8 weeks along and VERY emotional. If someone looks at me wrong, I start balling. (it's embarrasing!) My husband gets angry at me for being so moody and emotional and tells me I'm just being a baby. He gets so mad because I can no longer party, drink or go to bars. He gave up smoking and makes me feel like it's my fault he had to give it up and now he started teling me how horrible and what a "b***h" I am because he feels trapped. He wants to spend his every free minute drinking with his buddies and leaving me alone at home. This is our second baby. Our first, things were the exact same way and by my 5th month into that pregnancy, he dumped for someone younger and more party able. I'm scared that will happen again. Does or did anyone else have this problem with their husbands or boyfriends? and how did you get through it? I'm wondering if I should just call it quits now and move on before it's too late.
Thanks for listening~
2007-03-02 19:11:55 · 10 answers · asked by lissa995 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sounds like you really need out of this relationship. He does not sound like he is mature enough to help you. I'm emotional as well and though he laughs and says "hey emotional" he knows that my feelings (though my hormones elevate them) are going to run wild. The dumping you for someone younger tells you that he would rather party than have a family. I hope you get a better life than that ****. That's sounds like he is beating you down. You have a child and a child on the way. You need support, and if he is not then you are better off without him. I know it is hard to do especially with children. But it would be because of my children that I would leave. What happens when your children start thinking that their father doesn't love them. Not only for your children but for yourself. You need to call it quits now. What happens if it gets worse? You are scared and it is no wonder.
18 weeks pregnant.
2007-03-02 20:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have got pregnant with his baby again. He will do the same thing. My hubby was kind of an a** when I was pregnant to. I have talked to him about it and he seems to understand a little more now, but I am still very leary of doing it again. He is a good father and loves our son more than anything. When I was pregnant we would still go out occasionally and I would drink cranberry juice-7 up and be the dd. He loved it, he never had to worry about driving. I didn't mind going out where everybody else was drinking, until the end of the night when your feet get tired and your back hurts. Sounds like your hubby is more worried about partying than the children.
2007-03-02 19:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he sounds immature. Why did you get back together with him if he dumped you once? And to have a second baby with him? You need to figure out why you want this kind of punishment.
I guess the best you can do is to figure out if there is a man, a real man, in his life, someone whom he will listen to. Then have that guy tell him to buck up and take his responsibilities like a man. Otherwise, he's just a boy.
2007-03-02 19:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 03:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by aharon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a complete jerk. I wouldn't want to be with someone who treated me like that. What kind of guy would dump you when you are pregnant because you can't party? He's lucky you took him back the first time. If you are going to stay with him, try not to dwell on his bad behavior because he's probably not going to change. Spend time with your own friends and family and don't let him make you feel bad about yourself or your pregnancy.
2007-03-02 19:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by steph c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave his unforgiving *** and get all the child support you can out of him. Leave him for some sexy young stud who knows how to appreciate a woman and know how to take care of you and your children.
He's not worth the heartache, honey. You have bigger worries right now. Your baby should be your 100% focus. Everything you do will provide the outcome for your unborn child.
Stress isn't good! My friend was placed on bedrest because her boyfriend/fiancee was similar. Her doctor told her it was affecting her pregnancy.
Seriously. Get rid of him. You don't need a guy like him. :(
2007-03-02 19:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did this to you before and now your having another baby with him?Didn't you learn anything from the first time?Sounds like hes not ready to be a responsible parent and has NO respect for you whatsoever.Partying is more important to him.I really dont know what to tell you except you might want to leave before he turns around and does it to you again.I'm sure the relationship has already been damaged in a severe way from the first time he did this to you.What do you think 2 times will do to you.You need to worry about your baby in there.If you stress the baby stresses!!!
2007-03-02 19:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by lady2 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, I'm sorry you're going through this. I hate to sound harsh, but you should have left him the first time. He's selfish and immature anb doesn't really sound like father material. I would file for divorce and try and find a new support system, because his sounds terrible.
2007-03-02 19:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this little boy you call your husband sounds like a p---y. I am sorry ro hear about your troubles, some day you will find a real man.
2007-03-02 20:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by frogenstien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been cautious second time when you know what happened first time.
2007-03-02 19:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by babbumal 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋