Ok, I got with this guy back in mid 2004, I ended up getting pregnant in October and me and him got married in January. I don't want to stretch this out into a long story but I do need to explain what I need to tell my fellow answerers. I have always thought it was his parents that wanted us to get married, so we got married and right after I had our baby I went through severe postpartum depression so I guess they thought since I wasn't stable that they would get me to sign over my rights to them, so I did, right after that my husband left me and I got furious and started cussing them insane people out and said they just wanted my baby and didn't care anything about me and made my husband leave me because they were crazy controlling over him, he wasn't even allowed to stay overnight with me and anything he did he had to consult with them first. So I was really hurt and i'm sure the made him get our seperation papers he got to sign and I did end up signing them... continued....
2007-03-02 19:05:05 · 19 answers · asked by It's MIRANDA!!!! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So I met a new guy who I told about my marrige to him, we got drunk one night and he called my husband and cussed him, I felt really bad afterwards cause I knew my husband didn't want to leave me but it was his [arents being so controlling that they made him do so. After our little conversation, he changed his number. Well, me and that guy I was with broke up and I came back to my hometown, I got back in touch with my husband and he wants to talk to me and be friends he says but he is scared of his parents I can tell and I think it would be good for us to be together but he is so friegthened of them he can't tell them to leave him alone, what should I do cause I know he loves me still and never really wanted to leave me but they just forced him?
2007-03-02 19:10:07 · update #1
His parents are not crazy; it's you who is/was crazy for signing your rights to them. If not, then you really need someone to sit on you.
Otherwise, if your husband really loves you, he shouldn't listen to his parents anymore since he is an adult (I guess) and he should find a place for the two of you.
IF he doesn't do that, forget him, my friend, since he will never really love you.
2007-03-02 20:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a terrible story. You must be heartbroken to say the very least! Your baby needs its mother. You need to get an attorney as soon as possible. If you cant afford one, there is legal aid, check them out. Unfortunately, the question says (continued) but does not show the rest of what you said, so I am not sure if you already have tried that. This sounds like a con to me..a way to get a baby...get legal advice.
2007-03-03 03:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by natashainka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing your former husband can do is to just get away from his parents if this is possible. He needs to sever the ties with his controlling family and get on his own and just move on with his life for now. He needs to otherwise, stand up to his parents even though he may be frightened of them and let them know that this is his life and not theirs and he intends to live his own life. I know what I am talking about since my parents were controlling as well. He must be independent of his parents and not live in fear of them.
2007-03-03 03:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what you are going thru. Are you over the depression? If not, are you taking medication for it? Can you afford an attorney? If not, is there an organization in your area that can help with low-income people for legal matters? If not, then please call your local state bar association for an attorney, ask if you can have one pro bono-free. Or, if you can afford, a small fee. Let this attorney know what you have been going thru on this, and see what can be done to help you get your baby back. I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-03-03 03:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't necessary to talk about the b/f who called your husband being a drunk tuff guy. Thats how something gets drawn out, details that have no substance to the story. As for advice, its time he leaves the nest (emotionally) from his parents. Unless they are extremely wealthy, then you should let them control you both. LOL
2007-03-03 03:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by ckgene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what sweetie, it's not you that should even care about them and their problem...there is One of you and How Many of "them"? The truth is, some "in-law" types just don't get it. When you are the mother of that baby, there is NO ONE better suited to care for it than the mother. If they doidn't care for you and you didn't care for them, that's it...no additional information necessary. We don't have to like these extended family members...love of yourself and of your child is all that is necessary to be a wonderful mom-"they" can go take a hike up around where the sun won't shine.
2007-03-03 03:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by sweet doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband needs to grow some damn balls and stand up to his parents. He should have done that in the first place. There is no excuse for him not to stand up for you and your baby. A real man would have put his parents back in line when they tried to "force" him to leave you. I agree with the other person about getting a lawyer.
2007-03-03 03:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why do you still want him? a real man, a loving partner and father doesnt allow himself to be controlled by his parents in this way, getting back with him will only end in disaster unless he can PROVE that he can now take a stand and face up to his parents and make his own choices and kive his own life, if he cant do that, forget about him, no matter how much it will hurt you it will be best in the long run
2007-03-03 04:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by sydneygal 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband needs to grow some balls, get a lawyer and snatch that kid away from his parents. They sound like a bunch of psychos. If you're serious about getting back together with him, you need to move far, far away.
2007-03-03 06:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you and your husband are both very easily manipulated. Not a good recipe for a happy marriage.
2007-03-03 03:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by Havana Brown 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋