with drugs and I just miss her so bad but I have 3 kids to support its just I cant seem to get over her death, I just want to talk to her. Thank God I was given a good woman to mother my children because Im no father. Any advice?
2007-03-02 18:30:16 · 8 answers · asked by go getter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be a father to those kids. Would your mom want you be a bad father to your kids because of her? Probably not. Your kids deserve a father that is going to be there for them. Lay off the drugs they are not going to get you anywhere. Your kids are in the molding stage. Don't let your kids lose you? You know how bad that feels. Come on your kids would probably do anything to get their father back and hey you are still here on this earth. Please be there for your kids love them. Show them how much you miss your mom by giving them the love and care that you wish you could give your mom. And kiss the woman that has been taking both parenting roles but please just be there.
2007-03-02 18:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by marinesprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to handle death, it is sad to loose your mom, but what u are doing to yourself would not make your mom proud of u. your kids depend on u, don't u want them to look up to u, rather than be ashamed of u. your setting a very bad example for them, u are their role model. u need to grieve the loss of mom, stop blaming yourself for her death. get some therapy, get some god in your life. it is never too late to change and be somebody. we all have grief's in life we have to over come, but drugs just mask the pain, the only way through the pain is to acknowledge it, face it, and do better with your family. as one day those kids will be all grown up, and u will be sorry u wasted your time u could have had with them, doing drugs. they also may grow up to do drugs too.
2007-03-03 06:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seek grieve counseling to help deal with the loss of your mother..because the best way to honor your mother is to be the person she would want you to be..if your mother were alive today..knew that you were destroying your body with drugs..what would she say to you about it?How would your mother want you to live your life?If you are looking for the answer..You only need look inside your heart.I hope you take my advice..seek grieve counseling..so that you can be the father to your children..as your mother was a mom to you..
2007-03-03 04:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, you are a son who lost a mother. I am a mother who lost a son. The loss is HUGE. It is huger than huge. It is life changing.
My dad dies in 1992 and he was the most amazing dad on the planet. I adored him. He was the foundation of our family. It was huge loss, life will never be the same. I thought nothing could be worse, then my son died. That was worse.
Let's say you died and she lived. Would you be happy if she destroyed herself because of your death?
There are times I just want to die. My son was just 21 years old.
I know him well and he would want me to be happy,. He would understand grief and grief comes in waves. I ride the wave. Then things settle down and I smile and laugh. I KNOW he wants me happy and to NOT give up on life. The same with your mother. She wants you happy.
We all die. Your mother gave you life and I am sure she wants you happy. She is with you all the time. And someday you will be with her. I don't understand the spiritual realm, but I totally believe in it.
Please get yourself back not just for your wife and kids, but for your mother. YOU are worth it.
Check yourself in to rehab and start life fresh.
Your mother would want you to do that. She lives on you. And she lives on in your children. Please don't destroy their lives because her death is destroying you. Get some help please.
2007-03-03 02:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids need their Dad!!! dealth is not easy, but your probably really having a negative affect on your kids, they dont need to see you do that to yourself, you need to stop, go get some help, your kids deserve more than this, they should be more important to you than this and I am so sure that your mom loved her grandkids and she is sad by your behavior, she would not want you to be this way, I watched my own mother do something similar and it really sucks, and has had a lifetime affect.....give your kids great memories, let them shine...dont weight them down, you are taking them down with you...get up !!!!!!!pull your self up
2007-03-03 03:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am sorry for your loss! I do not think you Mom would have wanted you to do that to yourself if she was still alive or even after!
That's because she loved you, and if you loved which I am sure you do, you would not do this, because honestly i do think she would be to happy to know this. Have strength, you will be fine! Your Mom is in you and in your children, take care of them and yourself, do it for your mom mate!
2007-03-03 02:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its life!
Everyone has to go!My papa died last month he was only 44,verystrong ect,someone killed him!
I am still greiving but I also know he'd never want me to be sad n destroy myself.
Make ur mama proud!
2007-03-03 04:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pull yourself together, man. how you do it depends on you. you have to decide you really want to change and do it. no excuses. stop using drugs, rehabilitate yourself, and find a job. somebody out there depends on you. do it.
2007-03-03 02:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋